Upset about DD3

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Going out of my mind here. DD3 tripped and knocked out her top front tooth. I’m absolutely devastated. I know there’s nothing that can be done, everyone says there are worse things that could have happened and it was just bad luck but that doesn’t make me feel any better. Dentist said it’ll be at least 4-5 years until tooth grows. To add to the stress after all the blood has disappeared today I noticed there’s still a bit of tooth there so now I’m going insane thinking she will need this extracted. Cannot cope with the thought of putting her through that. My brain goes to all those typical places - photos, starting school, will she start feeling self conscious as she gets a little older, will kids laugh when she goes to primary school. I know I’m being silly but as a mum to a girl you can’t help it. She’s having nightmares, keeps saying ‘my tooth is gone’ over and over again. Honestly my heart is breaking. I guess this isn’t a post where I’m asking for advice, just need to let it out as the people around me only want to give me logic and rational thoughts and that’s not the place I’m in right now.

The kids will probably think she's cool when she starts in reception! There were a couple of kids missing a front tooth when my child started school (one through injury!) By the end of the year there were a few more as some of them have teeth fall out at that age. My child is jealous as they would like theirs to fall out!

That said, I empathize with the trauma. One of my kids walked into something a d broke half of their adult top tooth and had it have it repaired with resin. It's not noticeable how but was very traumatic for everyone.

Another child of mine smacked theirs against something and took a chip off the corner from it. It's not repairable as too small but it is noticeable and makes me sad, even though it happened some time ago now.
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I don't understand the part where you say "as a mum to a girl" it would be as upsetting if she was a boy surely?

It is a real shame but your thoughts are spiralling out of control here. It’s a baby tooth. Adult tooth will likely push out any remaining bits. And if it doesn’t? DD had a tooth that didn’t come out completely. Just a shard. Took a couple of minutes and she was completely unbothered and in no pain.
Do you suffer from anxiety etc normally?

Honestly you will feel better about it as time goes on. One of my DS’s fell and split his forehead open aged two. There was quite a big scar on his forehead (although it’s improved a lot now). But at the time I was so upset about it, how he might feel about it etc. Now he is 5 and I barely notice it, and if I do it’s just a part of him. I get that feeling of guilt etc but it will ease. Plus I always think kids look cute when their baby teeth fall out, and they have a gappy smile, you’ll probably grow to love her little gap. No one will laugh at her at school, they’ll think it’s cool she’s lost a tooth. And as the dentist says, by the time she’s 4/5 she’ll have a tooth there anyway!

My daughter smashed her top 4 baby teeth out during a PE lesson in reception. Traumatic at the time: she had to have surgery to have her gum repaired and some bits of tooth removed, but she made a quick recovery. She wrote a letter to the 'tooth fairy' explaining what had happened and got a special little gift in return.

She was a bit tearful and apprehensive when she then got her first wobbly tooth, but has been ok with other wobbly teeth. No lasting issues and 1 of her top teeth is now starting to come through (age 6.5).

No problems with mean comments or bullying from other children. I was a bit sad about the thought of photos, but actually she looks quite cute and it hasn't stop her smiling - I'll actually miss her gap a little once it's gone.

Oh and she enjoyed dressing as a vampire for Halloween - she already had the prominent pointy teeth 😁

Exact same thing happened to my DD who's 2. I was devastated at the time, thinking about all the events she'd be pictured at with the missing tooth. Honestly though, now we're a few months on from the event it's just part of her. She's not bothered in the slightest because we made sure not to make it a big deal. I think you have to be careful of your reaction around your DD because she'll be looking to you for reassurance.
Do take her to the dentist. We were lucky in that the whole tooth was knocked out cleanly but it needs looking at.

I feel you - my daughter fell over and broke her front tooth when she just started walking around 14 months. I was devastated, she had only just gotten the thing 😥

It’s raw and fresh now but you will come to terms with it, and missing teeth is a pretty normal thing I doubt most kids will think too much of it! I bet her gappy smile is the cutest.

Thank you all, it’s really reassuring that other kids have done this - I guess no one’s children in my immediate circle or her nursery have done this so I’ve had no one to relate to. I actually feel a bit better now a few days have gone by and I can see she is fine in herself. She does have an occasional nightmare at night but I get that.

@Wolfiefan I don’t have anxiety normally, I think it was all the blood and the A&E and her so upset that made me spiral - even DH said he’s never seen me like this.

@Winnerturkeydinner of course I would be upset if she was a boy, it was just a horrible freak accident but as a woman I just know how send conscious we feel

I assumed when I started reading your post that she was 6 or 7 and it was an adult tooth. That would be a bit of a big deal, probably always noticeable and expensive and difficult to fit a false one.

SO much better that it's a baby tooth. Some children start losing them at 4/5, so not that long to wait before everyone else has a gap too.

Exact same thing happened to my DD. Aged 3. She had a bit of tooth remaining too!

It fell out when the adult tooth came through. Adult tooth is fine. She looked extra cute in photos with her missing tooth.