Doctor pulled back foreskin and now child scared to pee

[Macmoominmamma]

Hi

I don’t know if any of you mums with sons have noticed a problem with your boy’s foreskin and can advise me?
A few months ago my 11 year old boy said his willy was pink and was uncomfortable and asked me to take a look. It was a bit pink but I noticed that his foreskin was long and after a visit to the GP he was referred to the paediatric urologist at our local hospital.

He was a bit anxious about the appointment- he’s private and doesn’t like people looking at his bits. We were called in, so there was 4 adults in total including a student doctor. The surgeon asked if it was ok for the student to sit in and my boy said no… she listened to the consultation only, and me, the surgeon and the nurse went behind the curtain while he removed his lower clothes. The surgeon at no point asked if he could retract the foreskin but he did ask to touch. I was at the bottom of the bed holding my sons feet for contact and so he could see my face. My boy said it hurt, the surgeon did something else and my boy asked him to stop. He is a polite child and was not screaming or anything like that.

We discussed a way forward and after a couple of questions, we were out. I was so pleased the plan was not immediate circumcision, but my boy was quiet, wouldn’t look at me and just said we’d talk in the car. He was in tears in the car and said he didn’t want to talk until we got home. He wouldn’t look at me, and shrugged off my hand when I comforted him.

When we got home he tried to pee but it hurt so much he was crying again. When I tried to talk to him he cried and couldn’t stop, said it was due to pain. At 420pm I made an appointment with our GP for 440pm after explaining the issue to reception, then received a call back after 5 minutes cancelling the appointment and being informed I had to go back to the surgeon. My boy was absolutely distraught at the thought of seeing that surgeon again … refused to go. I tried to call the department but my call was cut off numerous times. Presume they’d gone home.

So I have a child who can’t pee and refuses to see ANY doctor now. He’s sat in a salty bath and I’ve held his hand while he tries to pee.

Does anyone have any experience and / or advice for me? I feel so very guilty this happened right under my nose and I didn’t realise. My poor boy.

Thanks for info ladies. I called the urology out patients dept yesterday at 8.30am and was assured that someone would call me back the same day. Friday before a bank holiday Monday? No call back yesterday and didn’t expect it today, being a Saturday.

The good news is today he is more comfortable. He has been peeing in a salty bath when he has weed as his foreskin balloons up - normal for him - and now due to the trauma, he can’t tolerate this ballooning.

I’m feeling really let down by both the surgeon and the GP surgery. And I’m not bothering with waiting for a response now, it’s PALS all the way. I’m raging, esp as it could so easily have been avoided, as Rarewaxwing noted. An all round better solution, but I don’t understand why the surgeon didn’t explain what he was going to do and explain there would be some discomfort. What an arrogant muppet.

Did the surgeon replace the foreskin after examining your DS? I only ask because unbelievably, I've had to remind no less than 3 male Drs to do so post catheterisation.

Is your DS's DF or any other male relatives on the scene? & would Your DS feel more comfortable talking with them?