6 year old majorly fighting sleep

[wobblymum1]

Any sleep tips?
she’s always been really good at going down.
for the last month or so every single night is a battle. I do a nice bedtime routine, she agrees what we will do next-
eg bath, one kindle
programme, 2 chapters, cuddles with dog Then sleep. Etc. but the minute it’s lights out time she’s very very upset saying she
doesn’t want to go to school and won’t go to sleep. This goes on for an hour + each night and I end up cuddling her until she sobs to sleep 😢she’s not able
to say why she doesn’t want to go to school-
she seems ok there, has a wee group of friends, comes out happy, would always much rather be home with me as she’s a real mummy girl and loves being with me but this new nightime
hysterics has me puzzled (and knackered)
Any tips? Is this just a phase? Putting her to bed later doesn’t work as she is the kind of kid who needs minimum 10 hours and so any later than 8:30 sleep time leads to a grumpy
girl the next day due to when we need to wake up.

Is she ok when she goes to sleep on a Friday and Saturday?

Good question.
she still fights it but not as much as I’m more lax as she can sleep in those days so I tend to let her stay up a bit later I guess and give into “one more Programme” and then a “let’s snuggle down so we can have energy to swim/whatever the weekend activity is” and she visibly is more relaxed and happily snuggled down. So it’s definitely a school related thing but I just don’t know why. She’s not being bullied, is happy when she comes out, has nice friends, it’s like an anxiety attack right before sleep thinking of the next day ☹️Kind of how I’d feel if I had a daunting meeting the next day at work I guess.

she is nearly 7 - am I being OTT thinking she needs 10 hours? I think she does need it as we need to be up by 6:30 but wondering if I’m pushing a sleep time too early (tho 8:30 feels late enough to me!)

Have you tried talking to the teachers perhaps?? Do they have any comments on how she is during the school day?

Really sorry, hope everything improves and she feels happier soon. ❤

No not OTT at all, that's necessary for a 7 year old to function properly throughout the day. Don't think you're pushing a too early bedtime, 8:30 is probably the latest you could go imo.

thanks 💞I’ve actually got her parents evening in 2
weeks so I’ll maybe ask
then if there’s anything going on that might be stressing her out at school. i think if it was anything major
they’d have told
me but it’s worth asking for sure.

I would alter the bedtime regime and stay with her for now while she's dropping off. I would also ask for an urgent chat with the teacher. I wouldn't wait another two weeks, as this sounds like you need to see if there is anything going on.

Thank you. I will ask her teacher tomorrow if there’s anything she’s noticed and see what she says.