Wetting at night and day 7yr old, 5 yr old and 2 yr old!!

[Mammynet]

hi everyone,

I need help!!!! Everything is pee soaked at the minute and I’m feeling like I have done something wrong to damage all 3 of my children …did I do something wrong in how I’ve trained them?!?

My 7 year old has never been dry at night and is wet often during the day. Just a little circle of wet on his pants. We’ve been to the enuresis nurse and she has given advice about fluid intake and making sure he takes the time to finish his pee. I’m trying this but I work full time and being away from him so much means I can’t really keep tabs on how much he drinks, whether he takes time to pee and he is unreliable in his reporting of it! We’ve got the school and afterschool on board now to get fluid intake up but there’s been no difference. We tried the bedwetting alarm for about 6 months and whilst he woke when the wetting started, the frequency of the wetting didn’t change. We now just wash bedsheets daily and it’s a fight for him to get washed in the morning (it’s too cold!).

My second DS (5yrs) was dry at night (actually not dry but would’ve got up and peed in the night in the toilet) but has recently started to wet the bed. I suspect he has seen his older brother wetting and thinks why should I get up! He did say he didn’t want to leave his warm bed.

Then comes baby number 3, my daughter aged 2 who was showing all the signs of being ready to toilet train… I thought! ..but 4 months in is wetting more than ever and just this week has started soiling in her underwear. She never really was fully trained, I was just on top of it at the weekends prompting her often. I think in the nursery they have less opportunity to notice her signs and therefore she’s wet 3-4 times a day. Can we stop after this long and go back to pull ups or do we just soldier on?

I can’t cope with the washing. I feel like I’m doing something wrong! I’ve upped all their water intake and I gave them all some laxatives to see if that’s the problem.

help.

Your eldest sounds like he should be in pull-ups at night. I believe it’s considered fairly normal for children his age to not yet be dry at night. I wouldn’t worry too much about the small leaks during the day, he’ll stop that as he gets better control as he grows I would think.
The youngest also doesn’t sound like she’s quite ready. I’d go back to nappies for a few months if I was you. Do a reset and try again in the summer.

I can sympathise. It’s genetic imo though and something they grow out of when their bladder is strong enough. Both DC with exh wet the bed for years whereas both DC with DP have never wet the bed.

I'd put the oldest 2in pajama pants over night.
The youngest sounds like a break would be valuable.
Why not leave it a month or 2, then have another go in the spring/summer when drying everything will be easier.

My son was still wetting and soiling himself at 7 but he does have sen. He's 9 now and he doesn't wet himself anymore, he does occasionally soil himself because he's chronically constipated. But I believe he just grew out of wetting himself. I think some children often get so preoccupied with something that they forget to go to the bathroom until its too late. Give regular reminders to use the bathroom and perhaps use visual timers to prompt going to bathroom. I'm sure he will grow out of it

Thanks everyone.
@Smartiepants79 and @CatOnTheChair I’ve tried the pyjama pants and whilst he will wear them if having a sleep over he really doesn’t love wearing them. He finds them too tight and too warm. I could though insist on them again. He is getting frustrated with it all too, he’s conscious of the daytime wetting so only wears black and is angry about being wet in the morning. I feel for him.

i think I just need permission to give up on the youngest for a few months and that I’m not going to derail her understanding of controlling her bladder too.

@Papayaya and @Sweet89 it’s reassuring to know it has got better with time. I know the prompting can work but I’ve about 1.5 hours in the evening with him every day. I hate the guilt that comes with being a working parent too. The questions and suggestions made by the nurse just made me feel terrible because It just highlighted how little time I am around my children.

sorry for the pity party tonight!

Yes 3 of them are still pretty young, so accidents are ok I feel but yes it's annoying.