Just turn 2 and does not speak

[Sunshinexx95]

Hi everyone,
I hope someone can help me apart from the doctors who aren't as concerned.

I have a daughter that just turned 2 and she is not saying any words apart from mama, tata, hi, and sometimes baba. We are bilingual ( sometimes even trilingual) but I'm trying to only speak 1 language with her. I gave birth to a son when she was 15 months old. I don't know if that matters. She doesn't want to say bye. She only waves and says Hi when I tell her to say bye. She refuses to repeat words after me. She seems to understand a great deal. If I show her a card with a fish, she points at the aquarium with fish. If I show her shoes, she brings her shoes. So I don't know what to do. I am so so worried

My dayghter was saying less at 2… about 6 weeks after her 2nd birthday we had an explosion in her speech. She may just need some more time.

I could have written your post apart from the bilingualism. My son is now 2y 9 months and speaks in full sentences.

@ForeverTired89
Thank you 🙏 your post makes me less anxious about it. My mother is trying to tell me I should worry because my youngest brother spoke very little at 2. But I can't help not worrying 😭. I sometimes sit down and have a cry because I feel like a failure especially when everyone is asking why she isn't speaking yet. I don't want to stress her but I can see she is very frustrated because she doesn't know how to express herself so her tantrums are very loud screams

@Hercisback
I am so hopeful now after reading your comment. I hope she will start speaking soon. She babbles sometimes. 🙏 she turned 2 in beginning of September so hopefully she needs a bit of time

Mum of three here. Relax. I freaked out when my son was slower than sisters. He talks nine to the dozen now. Give it six months, literally don’t stress, then come back. If still hardly any words may be worth thinking about something (or may not!). But at just two - truly truly truly my advice would be to relax for a bit and enjoy your sweet kid. so many have an explosion of words between two and three.

Does your daughter pointing? Does she look at you when you call her name?.

i have 2 sons and they both not talking when they were 2yo. Both autistic. Ae are billingual family aswell. I thought they were not talking because we are bilingual but apparently they are asd. They are 6yo and 3yo now. And they are talking now.

if there is no other symptoms no need to worry. Its because bilingualism usually tend to be late. But if there are other symptom you should check with your health visitor

Our lb could understand so I only had the odd moment of panic (!) when he wasn't speaking at 2 and a half!

At 3, he finally started speaking properly. I had to keep reminding myself he eouldnt be the only person in the pub at 18 only saying 'woof woof' 😂

If she can understand you, don't worry. She's taking it all in...

DS1 didn’t utter a single word, not even mama/dads until he was nearly 2.5, he then very very quickly caught up with his peers. He could read fluently bu the time he started school (assessed as 14+ reading age) he does however like a previous poster have ASD although is very high functioning to the point that apart from a laptop for exams etc he no longer needs any adjustments. He’s 15 now.

My son wasn’t saying much until he was 3.
i was the same, so was my mother.

we all speak fine now.

@Lindtnotlint
Thank you 🙏 I am trying not to stress but I keep comparing with other kids and it is not fair to her. I decided a week ago that I will just keep talking to her and play cards with her everyday until she starts speaking. ❤️

@Abcdefgh1234
She is very good at pointing at stuff. If she wants water, or if I say fish, she would point to the aquarium. If I say shoes she brings her shoes. So she is alert and I know she understands. She does look me in the eye when I speak unless she is distracted by something else. But she comes and cuddles and looks me in the eye when she feels to.

@Vintagecreamandcottagepie
Oh I am so happy I am not alone. My daughter has a cousin 2 weeks older than her ( my sister son) and he speaks so much now. But he has an older brother so I guess that sometimes influences a great deal

I personally would still get her hearing checked. Whilst for many children the speech does come later it is well worth double checking. We thought ds1 could hear perfectly well but it turned out he had intermittent glue ear and was not hearing all the frequencies, all of the time.

If you worried get her an assessment with a speech therapist
You Crying wont do anything
Gerting her assessed and intervention if needed will

Chances are that if she understands well she will speak in her time
But get her a full assessment of her understandi g
If speech therapist reassures you all good
If they spot she needs therapy she gets therapy
Win win
Sitting crying achieves nothing

Hi,
I'm in childcare so have some experience of this.
Some children all of a sudden start talking alot very quickly, almost overnight. If nothing has changed by 2 and a half then you'd definitely need a referral to speech and language.
I'd also second asking for a hearing test.
Other than that keep trying, go to singing groups, reading, narrating her play.
Does she go to any form of childcare? If so, have you shared concerns with them or have they raised any? Also at age 2 they have a 2 year check up with the health visitor, has she had this? As thr questionnaire you're sent will certainly highlight this area of development and they have to act on any concerns x

My son wasn't saying a word at his second birthday. It was maybe a month or two before his third birthday that he started to use more words, and now at almost 3.5, he doesn't shut up 😂 He is still delayed compared to his peers, in that DP and I understand perfectly what he's saying but others sometimes cannot. He's been a late bloomer with his speech but I'm confident the skills are there for his speech to continue developing.

She'll get there, some are just a tad slower than others ❤️

Hearing check, speech therapy session (your local authority may provide drop in sessions for under 5s).

It may be something or nothing. Go with your gut on it, not the word of Mumsnetters who have never met your child. If it's anything it'll become more prevalent, not less, and you'll notice the gap between her and her peers enlarging. At that point you can make a GP appointment and tell them your concerns, they can refer you to community paediatrics.