My almost 4 year old sings to himself a lot

[mommycarol]

Hey moms! I've posted yesterday in general health,posting it here as well hoping for more traffic. So,my boy is almost 4 years old( in november) he is very loving,smart,very social,sensitive and very cooperative child and i love him dearly! He sings a lot to himself sometimes to the point i get a headache and tell him to stop..then i feel bad..he tends to sing nursery rhymes but most of the time he is just singing it with no words ,just the sound,like douuu douuu dadaaaa if you know what i mean. Im just wondering if thats a "normal thing" children this age do!? Or should i get more into it? Im a worrier in general and i dont want to worry for no reason..any of you moms have children that do the same? But absolutely no underlying cause? I would greatly appreciate any experiences! TIA xx

One of my Dd sang whilst at the loo a lot, now my Ds does it, I always say its a happy child that sings

It's the easiest way to make sure DS is feeling happy and relaxed when he's singing nonsense to himself. When everything is going well in his world, it's constant - even when trying to brush his teeth...

Can you take yourself off to another room for a cuppa when the lack of quiet is getting to you? I know it can he hard to think at times when there's never any quiet!

Omg yes with the numbers! All of mine did this, one in particular when she was so proud that she’d learnt to count to 100. Drives me batshit 🤦🏼‍♀️
As is it I could cope with the singing nowadays. My 6yo started ticcing during the first lockdown and it’s getting worse. Every night I’m sat trying to wind down after work and he’s constantly grunting and squeaking and jerking next to me. I’m ashamed to say I’ve snapped at him a few times out of pure frustration, and he always says but I can’t help it mummy 😢

My DD did this from a very early age. At primary school her teacher called her "the happy hummer"!

She is now 23, has just graduated from drama school after studying musical theatre. She's got a great agent and is getting lots of audition requests so all very hopeful. OP, you never know where it might lead!

@OnGoldenPond ohh wow! Thats great!! Well done to her! :)

I want to thank you ladies for sharing your stories,i do feel reassured :) as i said,im a worrier and unfortunately i do google a lot,which is a bad idea..i know! These days whatever you type on google seems to be pointing to autism or some kind of disorder. Its crazy! I think i need to chill and just enjoy him. He might just have music in his heart :) actually i forgot to mention,that both of us ,partner and i we are musicians as well :) is not our profession but his dad is a music producer who also writes electronic music and i play the piano.

Singing is a natural and healthy thing. My almost 6yo often wakes and immediately starts singing loudly to herself! It's cute.

Stop googling things and enjoy your unique, wonderful child.

@Dogtooth yes! Thanx xx

Ah OP, he clearly has music in his blood and sounds like such a lovely happy chap

He clearly feels secure and loved, well done to you.

I've told mine to stop op don't feel bad. Maybe some people here have never experienced it. I have a rule of no humming at the dinner table.

A relative sent me a video of my eldest at about 7/8 and we noticed that she still did this - literally say something, back to humming/la la la-ing, say something else, seamlessly back to singing. We thought she’d stopped by then, but we’d obviously just become oblivious! She then became a cathedral chorister and most of the singing was done out of the home 😄

It’s just one of those things that kids do. My ds at around that age used to sing the Harry Potter theme tune among other things. I was rather proud as HP not an easy melody to sing and he was pitch perfect! He’s still a singer at 25. Mostly in the shower though or listening to music when he’s tidying up.

@OnGoldenPond ohh thank you for your lovely words! You put a smile to my face ❤️

My now 22 year old son used to do this , he also loved role play and dressing up. He was always busy doing something .still laugh when i think about it .He still sings very loudly in the house when he is home .

I did this as a child and still do it now. It's pretty much involuntary and often I don't even know I'm doing it. It tends to be when I'm more at ease (watching TV or browsing on my phone). It drives my partner crazy but it's just part of who I am now.

My 8 year old sings all the time when she's crafting or playing, and has done since she was small. It's one of my favourite things as I can always tell she's happy and completely involved in what she's doing. It had never occurred to me that there was a problem. I'm sure she'll stop eventually but in the meantime I plan to continue enjoying it!

My DD is 4 and sings ALL the time! Usually the first thing I hear in the morning is her singing to herself as she goes to the loo. She sings nursery rhymes, bits of songs she's heard on TV or radio, and also just narrates her life in song. I think it's normal!

Sorry, only just saw this. He's 4 ☺️

Yes people have often commented to me that I'm always singing. I don't even notice it half the time. I'd like to clarify that I sing quietly to myself, I'm not doing it loudly enough to disturb anyone.

That said, there was a time that DH and I went away with another couple for a weekend, and I drove (for the very long journey). It was only when we got back home that DH asked why I'd had to sing along so enthusiastically to the music the whole way there and back 😳

Does he sing the same songs repetitively? Does he talk to himself a lot too? Mine did/does and was diagnosed with ASD at 10. Could be something, could be nothing. I wouldn't worry about it though as he sounds very happy!

My DS does this. So did I as a child (and often do as an adult). For us both it's a stim, it makes us feel nice. We are not autistic.

OMG my iPad put that NOT in the last sentence in predictive text.

We ARE autistic, ffs iPad...

I think youre just going to have to join in op. Get some.harmonies going.

Mine sang constantly and became a chorister age 5. Get that kid in a choir!

My three year old sings all the time. Even makes up his own songs. Very cute

A reassuring thread to read.

My DS sings to himself all the time and talks a lot whilst he plays.

ive been worrying incessantly to the point it’s making me quite poorly but this thread and the wonderful stories have reassured me.

As I’m sat here he’s happily singing a bumble bee song to himself he learnt today, whilst he falls asleep