Hi, I have a 5 year old daughter who has always been a little hard to handle. As a newborn she would never ever sleep on anybody else apart from me. She would just cry constantly until she was either put down or back with me. I would take her to baby groups and from being about 3 months old everyone would comment about how clingy she was. Nobody could look at her or anything because she would just cry. When she started crawling she would never allow anyone into her space and if another child did go near her she would hit them. When she started nursery it was the same there. She wouldn't play with other children. She would attack both staff and her peers. When she got to about 3 years old she started throwing tables, chairs and toys at anyone that went near her. She did form 1 friendship but she became more obsessed with the child than an actual friend. Nobody else was allowed near her if other people did try and join in my LG would have a massive meltdown which would include injuring anyone around. She could only go into nursery 1 hour a day in the end because they didn't have the staff to keep her and everyone else safe. The head of nursery rang me to say they had safeguarding concerns towards his staff and they need to keep the staff safe. She's now at school and although there has been improvements she's still the one that stands out. She needs to go to school and exit school using a different route to all the other children. She needs to be placed in my car by staff because she runs away. She has to wear reins when doors are open at school because she runs away and manages to get out of school. They said she shows a lot of traits of ASD and ADHD and said they think a referral for the AD pathway is suitable. The AD pathway got rejected because she is extremely intelligent. The paediatric doctor doesn't believe putting young children through the assessment if they are intelligent. He seems to think she has more bad behaviour then ASD and she will probably grow out of it. This is a doctor that has never ever seen her and has never read and of the specialist teacher reports ect. So now I don't really know what to do? We have had a psychologist observation done who agree she shows a lot of ASD and ADHD traits but we can't seem to get a doctor to see her for the assessments. Does a diagnosis actually help? How else can I get a paed to see her? Even if it's just to give us a bit of advice on what's best for her.