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DD8 wetting pants - UTI?

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woodstocky · 10/09/2022 21:31

I've noticed Dd (8, almost 9) has had frequent wet knickers recently. She came home from school on Friday and I could smell urine and when she got changed her pants were soaked. She was really sore around the tops of her legs, poor thing. She said the teacher didn't let her go to the toilet when she needed to go (which I'm not happy about!).

Earlier I picked up her pyjamas from last night and they were also wet and she said she doesn't remember them being wet when she woke up (they must have been). She's been dry through the night for years and this hasn't been an issue before.

We were abroad on holiday last week and now thinking back her pyjama shorts were wet a couple of times in the morning but she was so exhausted while we were away, I put it down to literally being so tired she didn't wake up in time for the toilet. The bed was dry and clean so I'm not sure if it was that she had accidentally wee'd a bit before getting to the toilet in the morning.

She's not had a temperature or complained about tummy ache at all, but she generally doesn't have much stamina and is always tired. She was so tired while we were away but I put it down to her being her usual self plus the excitement of being on holiday/swimming in the pool all day.

Could this be a UTI? Do I need to take her to the doctors do you think? I'm unsure if they actually treat it any more, but I'd need to get it confirmed wouldn't I? Obviously it's the weekend so I won't be able to get an appointment until Monday. Is there anything I can do in the meantime to help?

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woodstocky · 21/10/2022 23:27

Golden231 · 21/10/2022 20:24

sounds like the teacher refused to let her go to the toilet and ended up wetting herself, rather than a medical issue. Teachers should always let pupils to go to the toilet! Really makes me angry

It's still happening at night so not sure that's the case unfortunately

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Golden231 · 22/10/2022 01:29

Ohh ok. Hope she gets sorted soon

Golden231 · 22/10/2022 16:58

I heard that water is the best thing as it doesn’t stimulate the bladder. Sometimes drinking surgery drinks and make you need the toilet quicker.

Undertheoldlindentree · 23/10/2022 00:24

Cherryblossom99 · 23/09/2022 12:48

I know it won't solve the underlying issue but maybe you could try some pads for her while waiting to get investigated. Always do some for bladder weakness which are very thin, not like a nappy at all! Might help to give her a bit more confidence for school etc and she could change them regularly.

Maybe the modibodi type pants made for younger teens? Loads of places do them now. Not sure if soak up much wee, but might work for small leaks?

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woodstocky · 23/10/2022 00:30

Thanks everyone. It's stopped happening in the daytime and is less frequent at night so I guess that's something. We've cut out all drinks apart from water since I first posted. Still no clearer about what's going on but awaiting referral appointment to come through. She doesn't seem bothered by it thankfully.

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woodstocky · 24/06/2023 11:28

Sorry for resurrecting this thread, but we're back having this issue again. It just stopped by itself in the end and we never got anything through about the referral to paediatrics that the GP arranged. Not sure if we're still in a queue or not...

Since my original post, it's been suggested that dd may be autistic. I've done lots of research and had a long thread on here which confirmed my suspicions. School are apparently referring her to CAHMS but seem to be dragging their feet, and I'm saving up to get her seen privately as the waiting list around here is 4 years.

I had read during my research that this can be an issue for autistic children. She has a few sensory issues which are her main indicators for autism, and toilet issues apparently can be a sensory thing.

I'm not sure if this is what the problem is, or if there's something else happening. I'm going to try and get her in at the GP again.

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Mumoftwo367743 · 03/08/2025 05:48

Hello, @woodstocky I’m currently going through this with my 7 year old boy who has autism. How’s your little girl now?

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woodstocky · 03/08/2025 10:45

@Mumoftwo367743 Hello! So it turns out she IS autistic. She was diagnosed last year (we ended up going private in the end). It’s definitely an interoception difficulty - she goes from 0-desperate in no time at all. She is now 11 and starts secondary school next month, and has pretty much grown out of this issue but I think it’s more because we are aware of why it’s happening, and can manage it by prompting her to go to the toilet at various times throughout the day, and she also has access to the toilet at any time at school as a reasonable adjustment. She’s quite mature and is now good at ‘trying’ for the toilet off her own back without us prompting her now too. I remember how stressed I was about this so it’s funny looking back at my posts all this time later!! I am now stressed about other things instead 😄

I’m not sure if my response is helpful to you at all. I think the realisation of why it was happening and working out how to manage it really helped us, so hopefully the same happens for you too.

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