9 year old still wet at night

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My 9 year old is still wet every night. We have been under the eneuresis nurse and we have done the whole increasing fluid intake/measuring output thing and then went onto a bed-wetting alarm.
We had no success with the alarm at all and the nurse agreed we should take a break as my DS was becoming distressed by the whole process.
We cannot go onto the medication as DS really struggles with dry mouth at night and needs water by his bed. The nurse suggested seeing the GP to see if there is a reason behind him being thirsty at night but honestly the GP was no use.

We have tried not giving him a drink at night but he gets genuinely distressed as his mouth gets so dry. He is desperate to be dry at night too and it's starting to affect his mental health a bit.

Has anyone else had experience with a child not being dry at night at this age and also no success with the alarm?
We are going back to the eneuresis team in September but I'm not really sure what the next steps will be.

My daughter was very very late at potty training. Only dry in the day at 5 and it was at least a couple of years longer - and possibly more - until she was consistently dry at night. In her case we couldn't identify any reason so were just patient, used a plastic sheet under her main sheet, encouraged her to try the loo immediately before sleeping, and eventually she was dry. I absolutely understand how distressing (I think we were more bothered than our daughter).

We were told to focus on increasing fluids in the morning, limiting milk intake and cutting out any blackcurrant etc. This helped a bit but persevering with the alarm was the solution in the end. My ds had a medical condition which made control very difficult but the alarm did work eventually.

My DS had this issue until 10 - it's soul destroying for everyone. You have my sympathies.

What we did in the end was to wake him every night at 11-12pm to use the toilet and then that would be enough to get him through the rest of the night. After a while it was such a habit that he would wake naturally himself at that time and use the toilet. And he did this for a few years.

Nothing worked for my son. Just happened naturally at age 13.

My girls are both back in pull ups after starting to wet the bed in lockdown. There 6&7 I’m not sure what to do tbf.

We did a similar method to this (despite being told not to by paeds) and it also seemed to work for us. We also decreased the amount of fluid before bedtime, although this has been difficult during the Summer months when everyone is drinking more water.