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Sickness bug - am I a bad mum?

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SicknessBugsJustWhy · 22/07/2022 01:07

Dd4 has been sick 4 times in the last 2 hours. I've always had a fear of vomiting but had therapy and am much better now but still not my favourite thing. So DH has been lying down with her and holding the bowl for her. I can't help but feel like I'm not doing my job as a mum.

It's not like I'm doing nothing, I go in after she's been sick, give her cuddles, make her laugh, and have been cleaning up the bowl and sheets. Its just the unpredictability of not knowing when she might vomit I struggle with so lying next to her would be tough for me.

Also DH has never vomited in his life and doesn't catch these things, whereas I always do. He's also able to fall asleep anywhere in seconds so he's been able to sleep in her bed in between vomits. If I was in there I know I would be up all night. I am anyway at the moment but I have more chance of drifting off in my own bed.

Because DH works and I am on maternity leave, should he just be able to sleep in our bed while I deal with DD on my own? Am I a terrible parent? The guilt is something else. My dad would never have been up with us as kids when we were sick.

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Just10moreminutesplease · 22/07/2022 01:11

No, you’re not a terrible mum at all Flowers.

You have a supportive husband and your daughter is being cuddled by one of her parents. These are both good things! There’s no rule that says the mum has to be the one in bed with poorly children.

Plus you’re going in and offering comfort/cleaning up despite your discomfort. I think that makes you a good mum.

SicknessBugsJustWhy · 22/07/2022 01:17

Thank you for the reassurance. DD fell asleep and DH has come back in and is snoring next to me. So if she wakes again I'm afraid I might be on my own. Hopefully she'll vomit BEFORE I get in the room.
It's also this idea that because he goes to work he needs the sleep more, but I'll be looking after a sick preschooler and a baby, so it's hardly going to be relaxing. Thank god I had a good night's sleep last night.

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