Covid 3 year old and I have a 6 week year old

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Hello.
im really scared. My 3 year old tested positive today on the LFT (although faint and then he did another one an hour later and didn’t show line)
He had two days of stomach ache and one episode of vomiting.
he then had fever last two days and running nose, cough, sneezing and sore throat.
my brother in law carried him at a wedding (I was not there and I was so angry when I found out) and then told us he had tested positive for covid two days later so I think he has passed on covid. I didn’t go to any events of the wedding as was scared of newborn catching covid. And we have not had visitors for that reason
I didn’t want my 3 year old to go to the wedding for same reason but my husband insisted on taking him as it was his brothers wedding.
no masks were worn, all indoors etc I was so unhappy
and now this
i am terrified for my newborn and my 3 year old.
me and newborn are just staying in bedroom day in and day out and my husband is looking after my 3 year old in rest of house
i can’t stop crying and crying , as I’m scared what might happen to my child and also I’m so scared of my newborn catching it if he has not already got it .
im struggling to cope with this fear and it’s also affected my supply of breast milk as I’m so unhappy and just feel sad to breastfeed so having to top up more and more with formula
i am so scared

I mean this in the nicest way… you need to take a breath and calm down. I think your anxiety is disproportionate to the situation.

Is there any reason to think your 3yo or newborn might struggle with it particularly? i.e. are there any other health concerns.

Oh - and other question is, did you get vaccinated when you were pregnant? Some early evidence that some antibodies pass to the baby.

honestly OP I think you are unnecessarily worried- covid is really mild for such young children. Treat it like a cold.

Hello thank you for your replies.

yes I did get second jab whilst pregnant .

my 3 year old obviously not vaccinated so very concerned about him.

no underlying health conditions.

his fever still there, this will be the third night.

I’m also missing my 3 year old like crazy. I can’t hold or cuddle or kiss him, or just sit with him as me and newborn just staying in one room.

i feel really sad and scared I just can’t stop crying

You’re obviously very anxious so I doubt you’ll follow this advise, but I’m going to put it out there…. Stare it straight in the face, accept you may get Covid, and go and give your poorly three year old a cuddle. You may feel significantly less scared of Covid if you’re either a) exposed to it and don’t get it or b) get it and aren’t that poorly. You’re giving it too much power at the moment. Your poor three year old is probably feeling really crap and really confused why mummy is hiding from him as opposed to cuddling him.

Advice*

And if you want to carry on breastfeeding, as long as you do some pumping with the increase in formula top ups then your supply will be fine.

Yes he is really missing me.
if it was just my 3 year old I would have been with him 24/7
as I have my 6 week old, I’m also worried

Go and cuddle your poor son. The impact of his mum refusing to touch him will be far worse than Covid. Get some help for your anxiety and do everything you can not to pass on your fears to your children.

Agree with the above. My children have had covid and have been fine. Your son will be very confused about all of this and it is just similar to many other viruses that you wouldn’t think twice about.
It will all be over in a few days.

I understand where you are coming from. And I understand why you are upset that your three year old caught it at the wedding most likely. For what it’s worth, I think you are right to do your best to avoid catching it and the new baby. It’s a scary time. I know how frightened I was after I had my baby last year and it absolutely sucks. I will second that the odds are you will all be ok but your feelings are perfectly valid and I would be doing the same as you and would find it miserable to do. You can only do your best and what you feel is right. Are you able to get out yourself on some walks with the baby just so you are not stuck in all the time? This will pass soon and you won’t have to keep separate for long if you still want to do that. Also, hopefully your three year old will have some immunity from catching it so you won’t have to worry about a repeat till the baby is a bit older. It’s such a hard time to be isolated from people, can you meet with some friends just for some support ? I second the pumping advice too, and if you feel the worry is getting on top of you don’t be afraid to ask for reassurance off your gp or public health nurse.

Go and give your 3 year old a cuddle. Your baby will have antibodies from the vaccine and an extra boost from breastfeeding.

Babies are more resilient than we give them credit for. My 12 week old babies have had a couple of colds already thanks to their older brother (and his germ riddled nursery). Your baby possibly even has better immunity than the three year old as you had the jab while pregnant and you’re breastfeeding. Keep the baby away from the 3yo if you can. But I still implore you to give him a cuddle.

Thank you so much for all your replies really appreciate them as feel so alone x