Grommets, adenoids and tonsils

[MsProbably]

Would love advice ffrom anyone who's been through similar. DS aged 2.7 has glue in both ears, moderate hearing loss, massive tonils and enlarged adendoids. He occaisonally has sleep apnoea, has OK speech (much improved in last few months but poor constonants etc), sounds bunged up a lot of the time but hasn't been ill much (no ear infections), it doesn't effect his behaviour and he's socially fine etc. We are still waiting for NHS referral (went private for hearing test) but I'm wondering - would you do surgery when he is generally happy and developing well?

If he’s generally ok with it then don’t do it.
my son ha had it and he’s not ever been the same. Terrible sensory issues now, never had them before. Gets angry as everything is now too loud.

it’s heartbreaking seeing how much he’s changed and I feel guilty doing it to him. He did have a lot of ear infections and a lot of pain so it had to be done. NEVER AGAIN

One of my children had their tonsils out age 2 due to sleep apnoea. It’s been a life changer for him, he sleeps now, is less tired during the day which obviously long term makes a huge difference at school as he can concentrate. You just need to give regular pain relief afterwards for at least a week. It’s been the best thing we did.

I had a grommet and adenoids out age 4. I was getting constant ear infections though and on antibiotics all the time. Any time I got sick with a cold- it went straight to my ears.

I believe its one of the most common surgeries for children. I just wish they'd explained more beforehand what was going to happen- mask on face in theatre etc. I also didn't realise that as the ear heals, it starts to push the grommet out. This was then removed at the ENT surgeons rooms whilst awake. He got a long, metal device and got it out my ear! This was the only part that I found uncomfortable. Not painful, just unexpected. Your child is younger than I was, so unlikely to recall any of it though. The only other yucky part, was blowing my nose and seeing old blood for several days.

It was such relief to not have ear infections anymore. I'd go by what the ENT surgeon says. For the sleeping issues, I'd certainly get in done. Whether the grommet needs doing too is debatable, but then I'm not an ENT.