Severely autistic child, illness, help!

Verity226 · 2022-05-02T08:08:41+00:00

My 4yo son started with a cold last week but doesn't seem to be getting any better and his behaviour has become unmanageable. He's throwing things, hitting us, screaming constantly. "My mouth" and "my tummy" and he's off his food. I cant get a doctors appointment for love nor money and there's no way a lone GP could assess him anyway, he's a big boy and wouldn't comply. I'm wondering whether he has a secondary infection and on that basis I'm considering taking him to children's A&E. What do you think? Overkill?

confusedlots · 02/05/2022 09:21

Well it's not an accident or an emergency so A&E isn't appropriate. Phone your GP in the first instance, or if they're closed for the bank holiday, then your local out of hours service or whatever provision you have locally

Asd12 · 02/05/2022 23:28

Hi, I’m not really sure what I’m asking here or why.. I just need to offload I suppose.
My beautiful Son has recently turned 4 and is currently in the process of being diagnosed for ASD. He is non verbal, not toilet trained yet.
He is the sweetest little boy but taking him out can be such a handful.. he gets upset and screams if we walk in a direction he doesn’t want to go, or go in a shop he doesn’t want to go, he wants it his way or no way! I hate when people stare at us if he melts down, I feel so self conscious and like they think I’m a bad parent. He goes to a mainstream pre school which luckily he loves and they are wonderfully supportive, We’ve secured his ECHP and he has a place at a mainstream school for September which I’m praying he enjoys as I work full time and it’s not financially an option for me not to work as Myself and his Dad split last year. he sees him once a week while I have work, which is great but he isn’t able to have him overnight as he lives in a house share, and grandparents are fab for when I have work but do not want to have my son overnight, so I get no real rest, or any time without my son (I feel awful even saying that) I feel like I’m running on empty and at a complete burnout 😣 my Son will only sleep in my bed which I just do for my own sanity and as I’m on my own I don’t mind really but he goes through phases of such terrible sleep.. wakes for hours at night and is so hyper/anxious at bedtime he pulls my hair and thinks it’s funny. It’s just so hard sometimes. Don’t get me wrong I love him with every fibre of my being he is my boy, and he has so many lovely qualities too. I just so badly need a break and worry that my life is just going to hard forever 😣 is anyone in a similar situation? I can’t seem to find any ASD mums in my area. Feeling very isolated

DrRuthGalloway · 02/05/2022 23:48

OP I wonder if it could be tonsillitis - sore throat and tummy ache being common manifestations.
I would take him to the GP or see if he can prescribe antibiotics from your description.

theodosiaburr · 02/05/2022 23:51

Asd12 · 02/05/2022 23:28

Hi, I’m not really sure what I’m asking here or why.. I just need to offload I suppose.
My beautiful Son has recently turned 4 and is currently in the process of being diagnosed for ASD. He is non verbal, not toilet trained yet.
He is the sweetest little boy but taking him out can be such a handful.. he gets upset and screams if we walk in a direction he doesn’t want to go, or go in a shop he doesn’t want to go, he wants it his way or no way! I hate when people stare at us if he melts down, I feel so self conscious and like they think I’m a bad parent. He goes to a mainstream pre school which luckily he loves and they are wonderfully supportive, We’ve secured his ECHP and he has a place at a mainstream school for September which I’m praying he enjoys as I work full time and it’s not financially an option for me not to work as Myself and his Dad split last year. he sees him once a week while I have work, which is great but he isn’t able to have him overnight as he lives in a house share, and grandparents are fab for when I have work but do not want to have my son overnight, so I get no real rest, or any time without my son (I feel awful even saying that) I feel like I’m running on empty and at a complete burnout 😣 my Son will only sleep in my bed which I just do for my own sanity and as I’m on my own I don’t mind really but he goes through phases of such terrible sleep.. wakes for hours at night and is so hyper/anxious at bedtime he pulls my hair and thinks it’s funny. It’s just so hard sometimes. Don’t get me wrong I love him with every fibre of my being he is my boy, and he has so many lovely qualities too. I just so badly need a break and worry that my life is just going to hard forever 😣 is anyone in a similar situation? I can’t seem to find any ASD mums in my area. Feeling very isolated

Are there any groups near you for special needs parents? Have a look on facebook. I felt isolated but found some Facebook groups for local special needs parents, there are a lot more people with ASD children than you realise. Often there will be meet ups ect. Makes it much easier being surrounded by others who are in a similar boat.

LittleOwl153 · 02/05/2022 23:55

Speak to 111. I am not usually an advocate of the 111 system having had alot of poor responses in the past BUT I have managed to get a GP appointment via them a couple of times recently. They also have access to a wider range of services to direct you straight to. You will need to be clear however what your ds's needs are.