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Child discharge?

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Looloohoohoo · 12/04/2022 23:10

Hi there, I’m so confused with google so thought I’d check here.
My daughter who is 8 (9 in July) approached me tonight with her underwear saying there was stuff in it. I had a look and it looked like normal adult discharge. I told her I’d have a wee talk with her in a minute - I desperately scrolled through google to see if the discharge was normal at her age or if it was maybe a yeast infection or something. What I found was very vague, some sites say it’s normal, some sites say it’s a sign of infection and some site even mention sexual assault!!!!

I had a talk and explained that it happens to woman and it’s normal (I didn’t want to worry her and say I didn’t know if it was normal or not) and explained the normal types and the not normal types and to let me know if she’s worried or wants my opinion/to talk if she thinks she has a not normal type. Also referred back to a regular conversation I have with her about privates being privates etc.

So my question is….is it normal to have it at this age, I can’t remember being 8 and whether or not I had it. Her body is definitely going through some changes so maybe her body is preparing for hormones to kick in.

Any ideas?

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KevinTheKoala · 14/04/2022 17:52

I had my first discharge when I was around 8 or 9 I think, and was far to scared/embarrassed to ask anyone about it and so just went round thinking there was something seriously wrong with me for a long time. It can be normal and you may find her periods begin sooner than you might have thought but don't panic.

indigoemerald · 14/04/2022 17:58

I was around 8-9 when I got my first discharge too.

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Looloohoohoo · 14/04/2022 21:32

@KevinTheKoala @indigoemerald
Sorry if it’s a bit rude and intrusive, but how long after/what age did you start your period.
I’ve always been open with both my DD and DS about periods and never tried to hide what happens.
I never started mine till I was 13 and their dads side was all 16 or thereabouts.
I always thought that the age periods start was relative to genetics and similar ages with mother and other family members.
So not ready for this stage of my babies life 😭😭😭

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OneGlamMama · 14/04/2022 21:36

I had my first discharge and started my periods at age 8. Better prep her just in case.

indigoemerald · 14/04/2022 21:48

I got my first period a week after my 12th birthday! I think I was a bit of an early developer with boobs/periods/discharge, and it turns out that I have PCOS, so I’m not sure if that played a role?

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Looloohoohoo · 14/04/2022 21:56

Oh dear, I can’t imagine being in primary school with periods and how hard it would be to manage! That just sounds insane to me. I did have a friend who started at 9 but we didn’t know she had started at 9 until she was about 14 and we were all at an age where we openly talked about it.

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OneGlamMama · 14/04/2022 22:12

My mum had to write to the school about getting sanitary bins as they didn't even have them in the kids toilets!!

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Looloohoohoo · 14/04/2022 22:17

@OneGlamMama yeah I don’t ever remember seeing any when I was a kid either. Maybe have to look into it to see if my DD school does just incase

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KevinTheKoala · 15/04/2022 08:16

I had my first period at the age of 9, my primary school was not prepared and so I don't know if you can ring up and just ask them to make sure there are sanitary bins in the girls bathrooms.

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Looloohoohoo · 15/04/2022 09:56

Yeah I’ll definitely look into it.
Had a prep talk with her last night outlining the ways her body might change over the next 1-3 years and it’s just a sign that she’s starting to get older. It did not go well!
She told me she wants the discharge to go away as she finds it disgusting. She doesn’t want her body to change and she doesn’t her periods, she doesn’t want boobs (even though for the past 4 years she regularly makes herself boobs out of small balls or anything she can find 😂)
She rounded it up by saying she doesn’t want to grow up and started crying!
I explained that when she starts to grown up she’ll naturally just go with it and she won’t even think back to the “I don’t want to grow up” stage.
She’s a very anxious child which doesn’t help. Praying I get another couple of years at least before anything else does happen.

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OneGlamMama · 15/04/2022 10:46

Coming a severely anxious child to adult, my mum got me a book on puberty for boys and girls. It was nice knowing that it wasn't just girls changing, it would be boys too.
It even covered feelings changing towards boys, urges, contraception and attitudes towards sex.

I always found it really helpful and me and my friends talk about that book to this day!
Maybe something like that might help?

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Looloohoohoo · 18/04/2022 19:30

Aw I’ll have a look at something like that. It’s quite hard to explain everything to her because she knows absolutely nothing about sex! It’s been brought up casually in (kind of) when discussing things but she doesn’t know what it is.
We were talking about that weird “haw yeah” trend and how much I hate it and she came out with “my friend said it’s something to do with sax!!!” I couldn’t stop laughing that she had said sax and not sex.
Sorry side tracked there. So getting her something that goes into too much detail wouldn’t be ideal for now.

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