Panicking that I should have gone to A&E

[TwizMoo]

I posted last week because my 7mo fell backwards from sitting and bumped her head.

She cried for a bit and has been fine since. I spoke to my family member who is a HCP and they said to watch for any vomiting, dizziness, changes in behaviour etc and make sure she was easily roused during the night but if she seemed fine she probably was.

Shes been fine ever since but I'm a very anxious person and I've spent the last 5 days panicking that she has some sort of silent bleed on her brain and something awful is going to happen.

Dh says I need to get help for my anxiety because she is clearly fine but I'm so scared

Yes, you need help for your anxiety. It's not normal to worry this much. Babies bump their heads all the time.

Your child is going to bang her head many, many, many times.

Baby and toddler heads are designed to cushion and protect their brain.

Your health visitor gave you the right advice, you monitor them closely and if they are showing those signs then you get them checked out.

A&e would have observed her, checked her vitals and her pupils but would not have scanned her if she was behaving fine.

Yes you do.
Before it impacts on your child.

I'm putting on a brave face for my DD but on the inside I'm crumbling about this. I feel sick, I'm struggling to eat and sleep and just feel like crying all the time. I've convinced myself she has a dent in her skull which 3 people have told me she hasn't but I can't believe them.

It sounds very tough for you and also that something like CBT might help with things like challenging your negative thoughts.

So why don't you seek help for your anxiety? Your poor dd is going to feel totally suffocated growing up if you don't, and it's clearly pretty miserable for you and your dh too.

Your husband is right. Please call your GP and make an appointment. You can take your baby with you and the doctor can look at her too while you're there?

You can't go on like this. It's going to make you ill

Careful, flagging yourself as anxious on mumsnet can sometimes attract the vultures and vampires, as has, I think, been demonstrated here.

Your concern for your child is gorgeous, the the world would be a better place if all parents were like you. So feel good about yourself and all the work you’re doing for your kid. It’s hard and it deserves some serious recognition.

In terms of whether they hurt themselves when they fell over, the only one who knows is you. We can all give our two cents on the matter … I can tell you my daughter did this once and I swear I heard the thump from the other room and thought there was no way she could’ve been ok….until she just was. Concussion and brain injuries tend to throw up symptoms, and she had none of them. And seemed happy as Larry. So we just continued on. The fact that the distance from her head to the floor was about 30-40 cm. If she’s fallen from a metre or two, I’d probably have been up at a&e regardless.

BUT the only one who knows is you. Take them to a doctor if you feel like you should, end of.

if you feel your anxiety is becoming a problem, then that’s a separate thing that you can and should mark space to explore for yourself. Your first port of call should be your nearest and dearest, and/or your GP. There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect your child, and being a mum is so difficult in so many ways. It’s totally normal that it would cause anxiety. So just take it a step at a time.