possible autism/or something else

[carzac]

my grand child has been displaying signs of autism since he was 3 but seemed to pass all tests he is now 7 and to me and other members of the family it is more obvious so in the last month. he has suddenly become violent kicks hits screams and cries very much out of character his dad and mum are separated he is 50 /50 custody always preferred dad but happy also to be with mum ,mum has a boyfriend now seems nice do I dare think the worst or is it the autism showing itself more he is now 7 going to doctor tomorrow

What do his parents think? Do you have custody for some reason?

Not being goady just trying to understand your involvement.

Those things alone do not suggest autism to me. My eldest is on the diagnosis pathway now. He is 11. It's a very long process

they are very involved but very trusting he spends( his choice )most of his weekends with us mum is ok but involved with a recovering drug addict and who is bisexual, his mum suffers with depression his dad has also suffered with depression in the past

Why would you think it's autism when there seems to be a clear indicator for his behavior - his home life?

Trauma looks very similar to Autism.

Could he be picking up on your judgment of his mum's choice of partner? That could impact his ability to co-regulate with you.

Does he need encouraging to try different physical or creative activities to help him self-regulate?

Sudden and out of character violent behaviour isn't a sign of autism.

Autism is so much more than that and many autistic children are calm and peaceful.

What is the relevance of someone being bisexual?

I think his behaviour is because he is unhappy or not feeling secure with his home life.

update I think he is unhappy both parents dysfunctional so yesterday he tried to kick door in and attacked mum took her phone locked himself in bathroom and texted , please please please granny grandad come now his mum wouldnt let us in the neighbours said he had been screaming and crying for hours they didnt know what to do but were going to call the police but didnt ,very hard to explain mum has had little interest in him but puts on a good show if anyone is around dad overprotective, mum has had lots of mental heatlh problems throughout her life and hadlots of support ,she is very controlling and physically abuse to ex husband she had a dreadful childhood,seeing his distress we have decided to get the professionals advice for both of them

social services now involved neighbours made a call because of his distress being assessed possible autistic meltdown just over whelmed living in chaotic household