Toddlers behaviour.

[Lenawasley]

Hi there can someone give me advice how to deal with my toddlers behaviour, j am waiting to see the gp next week.

So my 2 year old, almost 3 has behaviour which is difficult to deal with, he is active as soon as he opens his eyes on a morning, doesn't sit still, he is literally like a wound up toy or he has had a Duracell inserted. He is so hyperactive he jumps and bounces all over, even when he is sitting at the table to eat he is constantly moving, he will say " gone now" but he still has at least half his dinner on the plate, he just wants to do other things. He doesn't appear to listen at all, if I try get him to listen he just runs off and screams. He likes to spin in circles whilst looking out the corner of his eyes, he tiptoes and is quite clumsy. He has no patience at all, he throws things, mostly toys. I know i shouldn't but all I seem to ever do is tell him off or shout at him, it doesn't help and he just screams and cries and we both feel crap about it. He looks at me blankly and he obviously hasnt got a clue what i have just said to him. He just doesnt understand things and he cant repeat what i have said to him. The only time he ever sits nicely is when music is on, he loves music. He only speaks in 2 or 3 word sentences but he knows lots of words, he doesn't recognise numbers but he knows they are called numbers, he doesn't know any letters, the only shapes he knows is a circle but forgets how to draw it. He either can't or won't try to draw other shapes even when shown. He throws things at other children at preschool, I think mostly messy play things like sand etc, gets told no by the teacher but just laughs at them. He feels he has to touch and feel everything, he's Impulsive too. He doesn't like noise, he runs to me scared.
Sorry for the long post and I'm sure there are many points I've missed out but any advice or simular situations and how you managed to cope or what approach worked for you i would appreciate to hear.
Thanks Lena.

I don't have any advice sadly only a message to say my daughter is 2 and she is exactly the same, it's super exhausting somedays and most days I have a good cry when she's gone to bed, just wanted you to know your not alone, sorry I couldnt be of any helpxx

As above, and my son has just turned 3.

It’s bloody exhausting and hes so unpredictable I always feel On edge when he is around other kids

I completely understand this, my child was exactly the same at that age, he is now 3 and 3 months, and is much better behaved, it seems his understanding has come on massively, and now he understands more he acts out less as he knows what we want from him.

Isn’t two a bit young to be worrying about drawing shapes and talking in more than two or three word sentences? Is he closer to two or three?

Thankyou for your replies, so glad I'm not alone in this, maybe it's just normal toddler behaviour then, he can be very loving and he even likes to feed his 1 year old brother, when he's not making him cry anyway. If we go out in the garden, to the shops, or park he is so well behaved because he just loves being outside, it would chuck it down and he would want to be outside. All toddlers like to try assert control and maybe that's just what it is, hopefully his behaviour will improve as he gets older, I swear I feel like a parrot constantly repeating myself over the same things every single day.

He's closer to 3, he will be 3 in May. Yea I wasn't too worried about the shape thing, the preschool mentioned he can only do circles but has to be repeatedly shown and shows no interest in other shapes or naming them. This will come as he gets older anyway I'm sure.

The first thing I thought when I read your post was is he getting outside time? It’s a good sign they he is well behaved outside.
Don’t worry about numbers, letters etc.
For drawing - if you want to encourage fine motor skills - chubby crayons and large sheets of paper. Have him draw on that or draw round him and he can color bits of it in. He probably won’t do it for long.
Or chubby chalks to chalk on the pavement.
Can you get a mud kitchen for the garden (if you have one) then we can go outside in any weather
I think expectations of pre school are too much. Some kids love forest playgroup as they get to be outside all the time.

Yes he enjoys being outside, loves a good run around. He has chunky chalk and he loves drawing on the path and we usually do it together until he scribbles mine out, we have chunky crayons too and yea he defiantly doesn't draw on paper for long, or painting so I tell him I wont put them away but I will move them to one side and if you feel like coming back to do some more then they will be waiting for you. He loves pottering with compost and plant pots, he has a spoon to use and likes to fill the bird bath with mud, stones and water, he tells me he's made a mud pie. He goes to first school every week with preschool too so he gets lots of outside time. I will continue with positive praise, he doesn't react to it though, I mean if I tell him he's a good boy, or thankyou for putting your blocks away you did a great job, he doesn't smile or say anything he just stares at me.

Oh I could have written this post two months ago.
My son is almost three and a half and has behaved similar from when he was two. Then, suddenly and unexpectedly, within a couple of weeks -when he was about 3 years and 2 months, he started to change.
First it was settling better at bed time, then eating at the table, then listening more and more, .... He completely stopped throwing things.
We still have the odd tantrums but it's a million times better.
I think it's two main factors, possibly three: he's growing and maturing, he's attending a new nursery where there is so much more outdoor space, his language is developing better now he's in preschool.
Hung in there, I hope you will see a difference soon! By the way, I also called my go once about his behaviours and been told to give him Calpol.....!!

My son who is now four and a half was very much like this. The good news is that he isn’t now!

It sounds crazy but is he getting enough sleep and down time? Make sure he is in bed at the same time every night and eventually he will sleep more. Play lots with him and give him loads of praise. Try not to say no too much and really praise the good behaviour. It really works. It could be just overtired and wired. Some children seem to collapse when tired and some fight it and go crazy like my son. Good luck and I hope that helps.