Autism and mental health

[Rosebel]

Let me start by saying school has always been non negotiable in our house. Unless you are really ill you go to school.
However I'm not sure what to do. My 13 year old is autistic and sees things very black and white. She is also religious. As such she's always insisted that all lives matter which obviously is causing issues at school.
A few of the children now wind her up over this. They will ask if she still believes all lives matter and when she says yes they call her a racist and say that she's wrong.
Yesterday this caused her a mega melt down in school screaming that she hated herself and wanted to stab herself. Then on the way home two girls followed her filming her and saying she's a racist. My daughter shouted at them and quite a few insults were given from both sides. My neighbour (whose son attends the same school) told me he saw my daughter running away and the girls following her. By the time she got home she was distraught wanting to kill herself, crying, begging me not to send her to school, saying she'd rather kill herself than go to school.
I kept her home today but don't know what to do long term.
She has tried to cut her wrists before so I need to take it seriously. She's changing school in September and I'm wondering if I should just remove her and home school until the summer. What should I do?

Have you explained to her why they are saying that 'All lives matter' is racist? It's obviously only considered racist in a particularly context because on it's own it sounds perfectly innocent, but if you can explain then it might avoid issues in the future. She could perhaps say back to them if they call her racist that she is not racist because she believes black lives matter equally. Can she be coached to answer back to them in the right way ie tell them calmly that it's not true and why?

They are bullying her because they get a big response from her, they know she will kick off. If she can't answer back is there someone she can go and tell about it rather than retaliating ie a teacher or pastoral care? If she can just walk away and not get into it then it won't be 'fun' for the people doing it. I appreciate she may really struggle with this but if she can it could help in a lot of situations as she gets older.

I wouldn't take her out yet but I would want to talk to someone about this at school with her present and ask them what they are going to do to safeguard her as she is vulnerable to this sort of bullying due to her autism. I would also not let her walk home from school unsupervised for now.

Thanks. We have had a few conversations about why it could be racist although I know she absolutely doesn't mean this way.
My eldest goes to the same school and unfortunately (but not surprising) what happened is all over school. My daughter had a student from youngest daughter class saying how my daughter was putting it on to get attention and is a racist and wouldn't hurt herself anyway.
My eldest stood up to her but I'm worried children saying it to my 13 year old will push her over the edge.
Head of year has said my daughter can work in the office and keep spending break and lunch in SEN area. Don't know if it's a good or long term solution. Head of year doesn't like my daughter or our family much, not sure why, and I don't think she really understands autism.
If she goes back tomorrow will be giving lifts until at least next year.

Have you spoken to the SENCO? Does DD have an EHCP? Is she receiving any support from the school?

Why is she changing schools next September?

If DD cannot attend school the LA have a statutory duty to provide alternative education. However, if you deregister and EHE they will say you are making suitable alternative arrangements and therefore they are relieved of their duties.

Have you asked for transport?