7 years old and 9 stone advice please.

[VanillaIce1]

There's a child I know very well, who is 7 years old just turned. She's very overweight and in 6 weeks has gained a stone.

She's now 9 stone 2.
The mum Isn't bothered and says it's down to over eating which could be true as there is a lot of access to snacks etc when parent is at work.
The thing is there's four kids and they all eat roughly the same yet it's only this one who's this big. My heart breaks for her she's now in size 14 woman's clothes or a 14/15 teenage clothes.
She's very tall maybe just under 5ft already I'm not sure exactly but she towers over everyone she looks about 12 but she's just 7.

Mum did take her doctors years back who apparently diagnosed her with IBS after a small exploratory op looking for something else.

I just think there's more to this and that it isn't down to over eating, yet my concerns are being ignored and I feel really sorry for her.
She eats and eats to the point she will vomit some days as she's so full, but she never ever feels full up.
Does any one have any advice if this is just normal or not please?

I would be very worried and her parents not dealing properly with her being very overweight and overeating could constitute neglect.

That poor girl needs to see an endocrinologist. Practically, you will probably have to get the school's safeguarding lead involved to liase with social services (children's social care) to initiate the GP appointment and referral.

The neglect and verbal abuse from the parents is pretty worrying and the school really needs to be aware of this and the concerns that other family members have.

Think of it is stepping up, not interfering.

Is there another person who the parents would listen to?
I'm guessing you are an aunt or something of the child, if that is that case would your mum or anyone else be able to get through to the child's parents?

If be speaking to school safeguarding lead. She's more than the height & weight of an average 11/12 year older 7. She must stand out a mile

Perhaps you could try to explain to the mum that being a "greedy pig" in her own lovely words, is quite obviously triggered by something going on in her body and she needs some medical help.

With the height and ect, it's likely a medical cause.

The child's mother is under no obligation to reveal her childs known medical diagnosis/investigations to you, or discuss her condition and ongoing medical treatment/ follow up with you.

My guess is, the mother is sick and tired of nosey parkers and gave you a brush off.

Which you were not sensitive enough to recognise.

FGS, The child attends school so OF COURSE any highly visible obvious concern has already been flagged up to the education authority/doctors/social workers. They just forgot to keep you in the loop.

@2bazookas

Mother sounds like a right cow calling her daughter a greedy pig to be honest.

Maybe the school could get involved. They could contact social services and express their concerns. This is child abuse.

This 7yo child is just over 2 stone heavier than me and I’m in my 20s (I am short though).

I don’t say it lightly but could the school be an idea to talk to?

You don’t think the school would already have noticed a child who is off the charts in both height and weight?

She's very tall too I'm 5ft6 and id say she comes up to my upper chest? I don't know now how tall exactly she is.

But you know exactly what her weight is down to the nearest lb?

@BoredZelda Yes I do I don't have any way to check her height I don't check my own kids I wouldn't have anything to do that. The only reason I know my own is because I can do it at the gym.

I am going to speak to mum again and just see what happens. Schools aware of it and nothing seems to of happened over the years.

The only reason I know my own is because I can do it at the gym.

Weighing other people's children is fucked up. It is obviously clear to the eye there is a problem. No need to be weighing them.

@BoredZelda I have every right to weigh her if I'm concerned I'm not going into details but it's not a random child I've just had round for tea.

I have every right to weigh her if I'm concerned I'm not going into details but it's not a random child I've just had round for tea

If she isn't your child in as far as you can't take her to the doctors to discuss the problem, it is fucked up to be weighing her.

@BoredZelda Listen it's not your issue I'm entitled to weigh her, you only know what's posted on this thread, if you have nothing helpful to say then fuck right off.

And yes I could take her if I wanted to but there'd be arguments and it's not worth it.
@BoredZelda you seem to bounce from thread to thread spouting shit but not actually helping?

The eating until she vomits is concerning - the parents need to do more. At this age it's their fault if a child becomes so overweight (unless due to a medical issue ofcourse)

My ds who is 8 next week is 5 stone and the tallest in his class so still looks like a rake! He does so many activities he has 6 clubs a week - basketball, trampoline, swimming lessons, multisports after school club , a general games club and also goes to Beavers which is always outdoors walking/hiking etc.

The parents need to get this child more active - move more, eat less.

My neice is very overweight at 5 and has just started p1 and gets bullied already. Her mum (SIL) is 28 stone and has always fed her takeaways etc and when we go to visit she cries for food all the time. Its so sad to see.

And yes I could take her if I wanted to but there'd be arguments and it's not worth it.
surely its worth it for the child's health? If you're certain you have every right to take her and can get her healthy then that's what you should do. For her sake.

The parents need to get this child more active - move more, eat less

This is such an unhelpful mentality, especially for a child. At 9st its likely that there is medical reason for this child's rapid weight gain.
Not everything boils down to move more and eat less. Without information on what the child is eating, eating less could lower her metabolism further, creating a cycle.

So could you give an idea of what relation you are to the child? From the entitlement you think you have to weigh her I would guess parent or grandparent but from the fact you apparently can’t just speak to the mother I’m confused?