AIBU to become a pain in the backside in order to get the paediatrician to see DS?
So, the GP has already referred us twice, once of which was expedited and both referrals were promptly rejected. DS is 2 this month and on a seemingly never ending waiting list for speech and language therapy. For the last 12 months he has shown self injurious behaviour, predominantly banging his head on floors and walls. He has a huge bruise on his forehead. He has recently started hitting himself on the head with his hand. He gets very very frustrated, which we think is because he can't talk to explain how he is feeling. He has lashed out at me and DH in frustration, head butting DH hard enough to leave a mark and hitting me in the face with his hands. Well it was more of a slap tbh. The rejection I felt when he first did this nearly broke my heart. Anyone else felt that?
What's getting me is that people keep saying he's normal. The HV said it, as have family. He's a 'covid toddler'. I don't buy it. They're telling me DS hurting himself and intentionally lashing out at his mum and dad is normal?
CAMHS won't see us because the referral came from a GP and the family coordinator doesn't believe Portage is required. We've already done Book Start, which seemed a little pointless if I'm honest. The family coordinator has given us some techniques to distract him when he head bangs, but these seem to be making little difference.
We've had the police at the front door because someone walked by our house and heard a toddler screaming in distress, so they rang the police. What the police witnessed was a normal episode of DS head banging and being frustrated. They referred to social services, however after a 20 minute phone call with a social worker to explain our concerns, nothing has happened and they've not been in touch since. That was 8 weeks ago. They rang on a private number so I can't even call back.
The nursery can't cope with him. They took me out of work at short notice because he was head banging and 'in great distress'. I get there only to find out that he's settled through sheer exhaustion, but they won't let me see him.
So, what I'm really asking is AIBU to become a pain in the backside in order to get paediatrician to see us? Website says they don't see children with suspected Autism, but it feels like no one is listening. I'll ring every day if I have to because all I'm doing is watching my son head-butt things and hurt himself, and we're helpless. What can I do to get the paediatrician to see us? Or at least to get someone to listen?