Dad doesn't agree school counselling

[Hope4newlife]

Thank you for your attention. I have an issue with school counselling for my child who witnessed his father's arrest and everything during the divorce proceedings. I have been waiting for a school counselling space since last summer due to Covid-19 and finally got it. However, the father refused to give his consents to school so the school cannot go ahead with the counselling support. Headteacher also agreed that the school counselling would be a huge benefit for my child as the Counsellor is coming to school or 1:1 sessions that involved some activities, chats.

So far, I have contacted Social care via the council website and they said I should go back to school because they can't see why the school needs both parents' consents. I have contacted Harbour support and is on the waiting list for online sessions. The headteacher told me that she will contact one point and in the meanwhile, someone will help with my child.

There have been some incidents that my child used inappropriate language at school so his friends' mums complained to the school and my son told his teacher that he learned from his dad. This happened twice. I concern that this could impact my son's social life at school. I really do not understand why dad refuses the support that the school enthusiastically tries to help after a traumatic event for 6 years old child's life.

Is there anything I can do about my child's emotional well-being other than myself trying everything and beg other organisations for help but coming back to me with no support because they need dad's consent?

I don’t understand why they would need both parents’ consent either, especially as it appears your husband is the cause of much of the trouble. Are you separated?

Anyway I would write directly to the head, and also calms if they are providing the service, explain the situation and say that SC have advised you the father’s consent is not necessary, and pointing out (neutrally) that your son has had some bad experiences created by his father. If you are the resident parent also be clear on that.

I have already mentioned to the headteacher about what happened and all. I do not understand either why the school needs both parent's consents only for this while they only need my consent for the rest. Is it not the school's business to take care of a child's emotional well-being at all? What if a child is severely suffering? Would they still require both parent's consents? even Social care told me the school only needs one parent's consent.