My best friend has just given birth. Trying not to give too many details to avoid any chance of anyone recognising her. But the baby is basically not okay at all. Whether the baby will live is not certain yet. She is obviously in pieces and just focusing on moment to moment survival.
We are very close. We send multiple messages to each other every day and tell each other pretty much everything. I've followed every step of this pregnancy and was so excited for her. And now this. I feel so helpless. I'm basically just sending her messages to say she doesn't need to feel any pressure at replying. That I'm only sending messages so that she knows I'm here for her and thinking of her. I join her joy in the little moments near the baby. Talk about any practical concerns she has. I've been trying to say little hope inducing things but don't want to being toxic positivity into a situation that's pretty bleak. I'm off work with depression myself and this means I'm constantly feeling tearful. I just wish I knew how best to support her and what to say. Anyone been through difficult times like this with their children and have any advice on what they found helpful. Her life has turned upside down and I'm so worried about her. Just feel so powerless.