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18 months old after HFM disease - Is this the end of breastfeeding?

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Ohlife2020 · 26/11/2020 21:32

DS2 has been off feeding since this Monday. He did have the usual amount last Sunday probably due to the emerging effect of Hand, Foot and Mouth. He then woke up Monday morning with a low temperature and a big red blister on his tongue. He tried a few times to feed on my breast on Monday, but it must have been too painful to bear. He gave up.

Today it's Day4 since he's off breastfeeding. He plainly refused when I offered at bedtime/naptime, even though the blister on his tongue has gone since yesterday and he's almost able to have his usual meals.

He still wants me hold him to sleep at the feeding position with his cheek touching my breast (bare skin), but just not willing to try to latch on.

I fear if this is the end of it. It's more than losing the closeness with him, it's also the very tool which had been wonderful to calm him down whenever/wherever. It's also the dreadful feeling of having to introduce a bottle into the bedtime routine at this age. What if he doesn't want bottle either? Would he have enough fluid before bedtime/calcium to grow? It's just a lot more worry to be added into life.

I didn't bf DS1 for long due to medical issue. So I really cherished the bonding and convenience we had this round with DS2. Even though DH constant nudged me to stop bf. I insisted that I wanted to carry on until he turns 2 in spring - hopefully the pandemic would be put under control by that time too.

Has anyone had the same issue after the toddler/baby recovered from HFM? Is this the end of it? Do I need to get a breast pump at this stage? Would bottle still work at his age?

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poplin · 26/11/2020 23:38

I would pump a bit just to keep thing going and for comfort. I've breastfed my DC's until they were 2.5 and there were periods when they would feed for various reasons but always went back to it.

I had a three week holiday once where DD refused to feed and it was mega stressful but she went back to it in the end. Just keep offering in a relaxed way. HFM can be quite brutal.

Ohlife2020 · 26/11/2020 23:42

@poplin

I would pump a bit just to keep thing going and for comfort. I've breastfed my DC's until they were 2.5 and there were periods when they would feed for various reasons but always went back to it.

I had a three week holiday once where DD refused to feed and it was mega stressful but she went back to it in the end. Just keep offering in a relaxed way. HFM can be quite brutal.

Thank you! I will persist. Can you recommend how much shall I express to keep things going? Just a bit three times a day, or need to match how much ever DS usually had? Thank you!
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poplin · 28/11/2020 12:26

Sorry I've just seen this, how's it going?

Three times a day would be plenty I would say.. I went away for a week once and only expressed when I was uncomfortable every couple of days with no problems starting up again.

Ohlife2020 · 29/11/2020 22:29

@poplin, hello, thanks for asking. He actually resumed the day after I posted this question. The supply hadn't become an issue, but my breasts were (are still) fairly flat though.

He wasn't ready to quit, I guess. But it's obvious he's having it more for comfort than for nutrition, as I could barely hear the swallow sounds most of the time. But from my side, I hope we can carry on until the pandemic fades away...well, ok, nobody know when that would be!

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