Period??

[Angrymum5]

Ok, 5 minutes ago My DD (11) told me that there were brown spots in her underwear so I checked and she wasn’t lying. She has had vaginal discharge for a month but I thought it was supposed to be 6-12 moths before her period! Is this her period or not??

@Pipandmum

My first period (and occasionally since) started with brown spotting. I used to think it was 'old' blood. Anyway she's the right age for it so its most likely is the start of her period. I really recommend those pants with a plastic lining between fabric layers - not the kind you use without a pad but one that will help with leaking as its so hard to judge the flow in the first few years.

How many days after did it turn into like a proper flow?

Mine started like this - I always call it 'old blood' too in my head!

I think about 24 hours or so

Actually I think with the very first one that was all it was. Be prepared for them to be very very irregular- mine would be anything from 70 days-20 days apart for the first 2 years - it was awful as I never knew when it was going to happen. They also got very heavy by the second or third one. I would struggle to get through a 1hour lesson at school. I wish my mum had suggested doubling up on tampons and towels at the same time.

[quote Mella91]@Angrymum5 it sure is! Some of these MNers are triggered over the smallest things and some just come to spew of their hate.[/quote]
Firstly I hate the word triggered. The op may be legit but there are some sick people in the world who get off on stuff like this and some of the wording read a bit oddly to me.

OP, whilst you may be 100% genuine, unfortunately stories about checking 11 year olds knickers is going to appeal to a certain sort of sick individual. That's why people are commenting on it.

@GlennRheeismyfavourite

I think about 24 hours or so

Would it become really heavy like a proper flow or light? I’m about scared of this is the case as she has school tomorrow!

There are some awful comments on this thread. Truly disgusting.

OP I would guess it's her period, I would check myself too as it could have been discharge and a sign of infection.

When I started I spotted like that for a few months then I had a really heavy one, all over my white denim shorts in Tesco and strangers came up to me asking if I was ok. I was mortified when I got back home and realised.

@1morerep

Yes there have been I agree! I am sure they are her period too. We’re yours regular spotting like a regular flowing period?

@QuestionableMouse

I would understand your concern if OP was looking at her neighbours little girls knickers or her little cousins or something but she is the mother of the girl in question!

A mother looking into her daughters knickers to see what the discharge looks like.

It's the fa t that you suggested that you thought your daughter may be lying about a perfectly normal bodily function that concerned me.
At 11 surely she knows what to expect, I certainly didn't check my daughters knickers when either of them told me they got their period, I just showed them where the stuff was and asked them if they needed any help/were OK. Never crossed my mind they were lying or to check for physical evidence.
Nothing triggering about it!

I remember my DM checked my underwear fwiw OP. I vaguely remember approaching her about it and she asked me whether it was a period basically and I said I wasn't sure! So she checked them (obviously with my consent) and then gave me a liner and I was sorted. I imagine if your daughter is a lot older it would be different but I hadn't even started secondary school and had only even been told by my parents' what a period even was about 2 months prior!

Like PP upthread within a few months or so mine then became horrifically heavy too and I used to have to change sanpro every hour at school and I missed a lot of school through refusing to go often on my heaviest days. My parents were pretty useless in this regard and did nothing about that so hoping OP will step up if that happens to her DD. All the best.

You can certainly check to see if there is a problem. But to see "if she was lying ". That's not a very nice attitude and unlikely to foster a positive discussion on this with your daughter.