Father worried about his 3 year old

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Hi All

I have this ongoing issue with my partner regarding our wonderful 3 year old daughter.

A little while back my partner introduced her to a morning drink of apple juice (not squash) and a wafer or bourbon type biscuit before we all got ready, this turned in to 2 biscuits.

I was apposed to this, but lost my battle. Our daughter became more difficult to deal with in the mornings, sometimes still undressed after 2 hours! I decided to take action and have now stopped this and provide fresh full fat milk and then when dressed offer her breakfast. I am now left to get both our kids ready in the morning as my partner lies in bed watching and making snide remarks as to whether my methods are working.

Is there a correct way or not? A short sugar burst leading to hunger soon afterwards and wanting more sweets or healthy cereal, fruit or toast.

Thoughts please

Personally I'd be more worried about the toxic behaviour of your partner.

But I think you are right. Loading a kid up with sugar first thing is not good. Personally once my kids got to 3 we stopped the milk and first food would be breakfast.

You and your partner need to work on your relationship.

Has she got any better on the milk only option? 3 year olds can be difficult at the best of times.

Thanks for your replies

My partners mother likes to give my 3 years old a sweets bags when she goes round, or lolly's to bring home. The 3yo then states she is hungry and wants sweet or a lolly. My partner used to just give these to her for an easy life, to stop the tantrums or constant nagging.

Regarding my partner, I run my own business, online sales and through Covid 19 sales increased and I had to work faster at work to keep my routine with the kids in the morning and evening, so she did not have too spend too long with the kids on her own.

Many of her friends male partners were off and spending time with the kids as they were furloughed, I needed to keep working and got it in the neck when she saw what they were doing, while I had to still work. I did take a morning off one day a week to help. I also put the 3yo into nursery for an extra day a week to help her have more time to her self.

Apparently providing a roof over my families head, totally renovating our house 5 years ago, any DIY jobs, getting the kids ready in the morning while she sits in bed on her phone and playing and bathing the kids in the evening is not enough and any discussion we have get the reply, your living in the 50's!!

Her father used to travel for 3 months at a time with no communication and no return date. Again this acceptable for her father, but not in todays society, which I get. But someone needs to work. She has not worked since our first was born 5 years ago, but sadly he does have a few issues.

She is not interested in counselling and think she does have some form of mental issue, but not willing to chat to anyone.

She wants me to move out, but that won't happen and am sticking my ground, her decision, so she needs to move out. Again I put the deposit down for the house and thankfully not married! Also bought her a lovely SUV 5 years ago too!

She has never ever said sorry for any of her actions and when like this I have to come home and have my food when the kids have gone to bed as she does not provide a meal for me. Again I mention the roof, etc and it is you are not living in the 50's!!

@fuckingcovid

Has she got any better on the milk only option? 3 year olds can be difficult at the best of times.

She won't drink water first thing, though today she had milk and then breakfast before nursery/preschool. No issues or tantrums either!

Your issue is not your child's breakfast, but your relationship which sounds fairly broken.

I think I'd seek some RL legal advice and counselling for yourself if she is not prepared to work on the relationship.