Help with vaccination decidion

[Colinsmum1]

Hi all.
My partner and I are still trying to concieve (12 months now :( ). And the topic of vaccinations keep coming up. He is against vaccinating our children ( in the future) and has done some extensive research against it, I on the other hand am a registered nurse and currently pro vaccines. Obviously this has sparked some arguments but we have both agreed to do some research together to come to a conclusion together. I am not completely against anti vaccines but I feel I need more evidence and to talk to like minded people. My family have vacinated all their children but his side of the family are anti vaccine.
Am I a bad health care professional if I dont get my children vaccinated?
Will I be a bad mother?
What are your experiences
Thanks M x

Make sure you and your husband know the difference between peer reviewed published articles and research in established medical journals, and internet blogs from "anti-Vax" websites and YouTube videos.
Makes a mockery of research scientists and medics who have studied vaccines for years, when some weirdo who has watched a few videos rocks up and challenges them on their PHD, and is disrespectful to those who have suffered, or have family members who have been affected by infectious diseases.

And his side of the family are going to be the ones responsible for killer diseases eventually returning.

Most anti vax parents seems to worry their child could get autism or similar. Although this research was proven false. Even if it were true would you rather have an autistic child or a dead one? Without meaning to be harsh I'd wait to see if you can conceive before worrying about that

Tricky as you're both from different camps. However, when you're doing your research together, please factor in younger siblings of friends your child may be visiting who may not be eligible for vaccines yet and the impact an unvaccinated child may have on them. I think if you choose not to vaccinate you should be vocal about it so that others can appropriately risk assess and choose whether they wish their kids to spend time with your child.

You're an actual nurse. He has watched some YouTube videos. If he doesn't respect your superior knowledge on this subject then I would not have a child with him at all. Does he think his guess is as good as your professional qualification on any other issues?

The easiest way to tackle it is to look at the research he's done (which will just be hearsay/nutters) and then look at the proper peer reviewed literature together.

I just don't see how your relationship will survive this and other huge decisions about your child/children. You can't really compromise with vaccinations. There is no 'meet me halfway'. The child either gets them or not (and one parent will be left feeling very unhappy and disrespected, that's a given- will it be you or your partner?).

Am I a bad health care professional if I dont get my children vaccinated? You will be a hypocritical one.

Will I be a bad mother? An unintentionally negligent parent is what I'd consider you to be, but not a bad one. One who's been bullied into placing a sword of Damocles over her child's/children's head(s). And that's a bitter pill you're forcing yourself to swallow.

This is a game-changer, as far as your relationship goes.

Just to add, I am sorry to sound so hopeless regarding your relationship. But OP, you're up against him and his entire family of anti-vaxxers. This is really discouraging. I am sorry that on top of the difficulties of conceiving, you're dealing with this confrontation as well. That's tough.

We'll you're clearly not pro vaccine if you're even entertaining this nonsense. I also hate to break it to you, but he has no respect for you or the job you do if he's not willing to listen to you on this - an actual healthcare professional.

Do you have any (male) doctor friends that can talk some sense into him?