Help with bed wetting please

[Dexter2402]

My son is 4 and has been out of nappies since he was 2 but he still isn't dry at night. Last night he wet the bed 3 times 😩 He hasn't worn pull ups for over a year because we thought he was dry but obviously not. I've tried stopping him from having a drink after 5pm, we take him to the toilet about 10ish but sometimes he is already wet by then. I've also tried using a reward chart for the times he is dry but nothing is working. I'm ready to put him back in pull ups but my husband is against it as he thinks it's a step backwards and almost like punishing him.
Any advise for a desperate mum please??

Night time dryness can't be learned. It's down to a hormone being produced that reduced urine output. Until he's got this nothing will help.

At 4 this is really normal IMO

Give him the pull ups and tell him it's not his fault poor lad

He’s only 4, I think you risk turning this into a big issue for him. He’ll be dry at night when his body is ready. Put him back in pull ups.

My DD1 was out of nappies and fully dry in the daytime at 2. She wasn't dry at night until she was 8. It's a hormone that we all produce, that may not kick in until later.

Obviously you can help things by limiting liquids just before bedtime etc, but in your situation I would definitely go back to pullups and let him (and you!) get a good nights sleep for another year, or two, or maybe even more.

It'll happen when it happens. Don't do reward charts as it is very different from day time training. My kids were 10 and 12 when they finally got dry at night (don't worry they are unusual cases!) as they took longer to produce the right hormone.

My ds was 8 and GP wouldn't even help till then. We tried everything before then but nothing worked think mainly as a deep sleeper. Only thing which did work and got him dry was an alarm which sounded when he wet himself but couldn't get this on NHS till he was 8 and we had monitored his max urine output to check bladder had grown enough etc