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What would you do

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Londongirl86 · 16/12/2019 13:27

I've wrote a couple of posts on this situation but want to ask what would you do?

Friends family have had norovirus this week, she went aroung with her daughter. Her child has caught it yesterday mid afternoon. First tummy bug she's ever had.

She has lied to the school and told them she thinks it's over eating not a bug. She plans on taking her back tomorrow so she doesnt miss out on the Christmas party and dinner.

My child's best friends with her and will be in close contact tomorrow less than 48 hours after it started and less than 24 hours since the squits started. I don't want it in this house as it's Christmas next week. It's also a big worry because my toddler is poorly with a virus already and is at home on antibiotics. Also I don't want it. If I get it I've got a small child and one at school

As my friends convinced herself it's the poptarts she ate I can't exactly kick off without making things awkward.

Do I send my child in and accept norovirus will be in the house in a few days. Or do I keep her home and make out she's ill for ,3 days so we can still enjoy Christmas?

What annoys me is if I keep her off her attendance will look poor. If I send her in she will be throwing up and probably have us joining her in a few days.

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Bickles · 16/12/2019 13:30

How old is your child?

Kanga83 · 16/12/2019 13:33

Honestly, I would ring the school and advise the child has norovirus and they need to send her home. You can ask to be anonymous, the school can simply say she can't be in while any tummy ache.

inwood · 16/12/2019 13:34

How old is your child? I'd be keeping them out.

Useful22 · 16/12/2019 13:38

Tell school, that's very selfish. Also I'd tell your friend, it's so horrid maki g all those poor kids sick

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Londongirl86 · 16/12/2019 13:39

My child's in reception not quite five. I have considered phoning the school but shes my friend and our child's teacher will know I've dobbed her in. It feels like one of the worst situations I've been in. Especially because she knows full well it's not food related. Even if it was it's not fair to send him in with the risk of a relapse is it Sad

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jinglebelldogs · 16/12/2019 13:42

I'd keep my child home. It's just not worth it

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Londongirl86 · 16/12/2019 14:14

I do feel that way. I guess I'll have to sleep on it and decide in the morning. Feels so unfair my child's got to be put at risk or miss out on Christmas food and games. What a nightmare

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Trying2310 · 16/12/2019 19:33

I have a real fear of getting noro after two hideous experiences. I have extreme anxiety about it and panic when any of my kids say they have sore tummies or feel sick so I understand your pain and worry.

However, your child could pick it up from a number of different children or surfaces from school. There will be plenty of other children who will come back to school before the 48 hr rule. Also, you could pick it up from any number of public places, atms, door handles, trollies etc. You can try to reduce the risk with hand-washing but it's probably already doing the rounds at your school or local community. If you are going to get it then there's not much stopping noro.
I think you should call out your friend and tell her she should be following the 48 rule as she doesn't know if there are immuno suppressed kids in the school. Otherwise try not to over think it ( hard to do as it's exactly what I have been worrying about over the last few weeks in a busy December)

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Londongirl86 · 16/12/2019 21:27

@Trying2310 you are right, I've wasted so much energy today over this. I hope the school realise she's lied tjough. I hope she tells them she's been sick loads so they hear the truth. I feel sorry for the teachers etc. It's their job to teach and now they are going to be at high risk of catching this too. The school were foolish though to give her permission to take her back so soon. All vomiting should require 48 hours off. Surely they know parents tell lies!

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blindmansbluff · 16/12/2019 21:34

Tell the school. Not just for your kid but for all the others too.

Trying2310 · 16/12/2019 23:12

@Londongirl86 I hope the school do find out and maybe if you contact the school they could send out a general stern email to all parents reminding them of the sickness policy and why it stands. Some people are just selfish and have no concern for others. I really hope you don't get the bug in your house this Christmas season. Fingers crossed for you all x

SlB09 · 16/12/2019 23:19

How very selfish of that parent.

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Londongirl86 · 17/12/2019 07:28

Yup all she is thinking about is her child not having too much time off school. Sod everyone else and the fact there are loads of newborn siblings and toddlers in our small playground. She's putting alot of people at risk. I just hope her daughter doesn't vomit allover the carpet today.

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Absoluteunit · 17/12/2019 07:38

Nah keep her off. I'd be very tempted to tell school too. So selfish!

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Londongirl86 · 17/12/2019 10:07

Yeah I think I will keep her off tomorrow and Thursday She's only 4 so legally doesn't have to be in school.

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