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I get marrid in 6 weeks ! My son was exposed 4 days ago to a child

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 10:10

Hi

I get married in 6 weeks today, on sunday my son was with his friend who on Monday came out in chicken pox . My partner has also not had it ! in the likely hood that they have got infected will the spots have gone and cleared up by the 25th July

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AugustRose · 13/06/2019 10:59

6 weeks is a long time so i mean they should be clear surley

Depends when they appear, two of DC were exposed at the same time, one got them straight away and they lasted two weeks - the other one didn't get any signs/spots for a further 4 weeks.

I haven't had the vaccine, can someone explain how if you have already been exposed to the virus and your body is already working on it, how the vaccine works quicker? Genuine question as I thought it would be too late - vaccines are to stop you getting it in the first place aren't they?

ScrambledSmegs · 13/06/2019 10:59

Obviously that's an extreme example, but it's still v unpleasant with 'just' the pox.

BIWI · 13/06/2019 11:01

Why would you think that breastfeeding prevents you from getting chicken pox?!

Get him to go and get the vaccine. £140 is a small price to pay to prevent him from catching a disease that can be really problematic for adults

TheVeryThing · 13/06/2019 11:05

Breastfeeding not always protective. (I had immunity but my ebf ds caught chicken pox from his brother at 3 months old. He actually had a worse infection than ds1.

0hT00dles · 13/06/2019 11:05

Both my dd’s were exposed. I called my gp as in Ireland the gp administers the vaccine. She said to wait the 14 days before I book it in - it takes her 7 days to get the vaccine in anyway-and bang, on day 14 my youngest dd of 16 months gets it. We’re on day 4 of it now and spots still appearing.

Get the vaccine if you can. My eldest dd is 5, never had it and now we’re just waiting. If she doesn’t get it, I’m getting the vaccine as I can claw some money back on health insurance. Neither me nor my dh have had chicken pox either so we’re just hoping nothing will happen.

For peace of mind, get the vaccine! This chicken pox season seems to be never ending unfortunately

teyem · 13/06/2019 11:08

I don't know Biwi Grin. I thought perhaps breast milk and the antibodies it provides might have a protective effect, inasmuch as ... No, I don't know, I feel it in my water

frogsoup · 13/06/2019 11:14

You are right, a baby would be partly protected by maternal immunity while it was breastfeeding - but obviously it wouldn't still apply after the baby had stopped breastfeeding, so completely irrelevant to OPs adult partner!!!

PeoniesarePink · 13/06/2019 11:31

I was vaccinated post birth as the student midwife who was in the room had shingles but thought it was heatrash........ Hmm and my newborn DD also was vaccinated. It stopped us both from getting it as I'd never had it, and my other 2 DDs have since had CP but DD1 and I never caught it from them.

Get the vaccine, cost is irrelevant. It's a nasty illness and my DD2 has got several pox scars on her face she's needed a lot of treatment for.

Zoflorabore · 13/06/2019 11:36

I had it as a baby and my ds (now 16) had it when he was 5.
3 years ago when my dd was also 5 she got it. Her dad (my dp) had never had it and didn't catch it from her.

The problem we had was we were going abroad on our first family holiday 9 days after she came out in spots! I was a wreck but researched lots and we got a fit to fly letter and spots cleared up really quickly and she was absolutely covered in them.

I was advised to buy a cream called Eurax from Boots and it was magic, spots started going in a few days and all was well.

Hopefully it won't happen at all but just to let you know that treatments are very good and if someone is likely to catch it then there's nothing you can do to stop it if already exposed to the carrier.

HazelBite · 13/06/2019 11:36

Usually CP comes out almost 14days to the day of exposure, too late for your son, but your DHtb should be considering the jab although I understand it can take a while to get it.

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 11:45

Think im just panicking as long as they are healthy ! the initial panick has gone lol thanks ladies ! bloody weddings

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Casperandjasper · 13/06/2019 11:47

Breastfeeding doesn’t guarantee immunity. My son caught chicken pox when he was 9 weeks old.

QuimReaper · 13/06/2019 11:49

I think teyem was saying she was breastfeeding at the time that her child didn't get it when their siblings did; not that being breastfed provides lifelong immunity.

Glad you are focusing on the important things....

That's such a silly, unsympathetic thing to say. Anyone would be gutted at this prospect - it isn't like she's flipping out over a terminal disease just because it'll spoil her day, it's a brief but incapacitating (and potentially disfiguring!) illness, which would be really heartbreaking if it happened to fall over the wedding. In the weeks before I got married I was convinced I was going to break my leg; nobody would ever want a broken leg obviously, but it happens and you get on with it, but after so much money and planning went into a single day, it'd be the absolute worst luck for it to happen at that very moment.

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 11:52

My make up artist is amazing ! my partner may have to use her lol

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PigletJohn · 13/06/2019 11:56

I was surprised to get chickenpox as an adult this time last year. I went to the doc on the first day of spots and was prescribed some kind of antibiotic which stopped them getting worse and no more appeared after day 2.

It's very infectious and unpleasant though. I think I was over it after about 2 weeks.

Family members and close contacts can be expected to catch it if not already immune.

If you can afford the vaccination, I'd have it.

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 11:57

Tell me about it ive moved house and planned a wedding at the same time so my stress levels are sky high ! then when my friend said she had CP well i just thought for F S as you can emagine . Talking about it though as made me think theres nothing really i can do as long as they are both well and healthy i guess whats a few spots ! we go Cypras 2 days later lol

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 11:59

Thanks QuimReaper

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Illberidingshotgun · 13/06/2019 12:03

Oh no, you have had a lot on your plate! As I mentioned before, I'm sure the photographer can photoshop any spots, but do encourage your partner to go and get the vaccination, so at least he's well for the day.

I hope the next few weeks are relatively spot free and without further stresses.

notoafternoontea · 13/06/2019 12:05

The first thing your dhtb needs to do is get tested for immunity. If he's never had it, it's highly likely he's immune. I am and I've never had it. Presumably I had one or two spots as a kid and no-one ever noticed. Both my children have it, as have numerous others of my acquaintance and I've never caught it.

If your little one gets it, hopefully they'll get over it quickly.

The GP will test your dhtb and you get the results within 24 hours - I had to be tested when DH got shingles when I was going through fertility treatment.

DecomposingComposers · 13/06/2019 12:07

Talking about it though as made me think theres nothing really i can do as long as they are both well and healthy i guess whats a few spots ! we go Cypras 2 days later lol

But there is something you can do - get them to have the vaccine!

If it's only 6 weeks until the wedding you need to hope that one doesn't get it and then the other. That's what happened here - dd got it and then 3 weeks to the day after my dad got it.

If your son takes 3 weeks to come out in spots and then your fiancée catches it 3 weeks later then he will still be ill for the wedding.

bluebluezoo · 13/06/2019 12:08

Do you have wedding insurance?

Please say you do!

Patchworksack · 13/06/2019 12:14

You won't be going to Cyprus if your new husband has developed chicken pox, It's not 'a few spots' it can make adults really ill. Tell him to go to his GP to find out if he is immune and if not then get vaccinated as your son is likely to develop CP in 2-3 weeks if he was exposed and has not had it, which would then mean your non-immune partner would get it just in time to miss your wedding and honeymoon. Why would you risk CP spoiling all your plans??

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JacquiAliciaGill · 13/06/2019 12:17

Oh god yeah but im not cancelling lol ! no way its took over a yr of planning and would be to much stress to stop it. Hes ringing his doctor today my partner to see what he says. We have 6 weeks today ! if they arent clear by then if they do get them im very unlucky . If i tell my partner it would cost 280 for both of them i think he would go mad lol its been a very expensive yr for him lol

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TatianaLarina · 13/06/2019 12:17

I had chicken pox as an adult - it was fine.

Neither of them may catch it. If they do it takes about 2 weeks 2 incubate, lasts 2 weeks max and then they’ll be clear. So it should all be over in a month.

TragicallyUnbeyachted · 13/06/2019 12:19

If your son has caught it then he'll be over it by the wedding. But your partner ought to get vaccinated as if your son has caught it he could easily infect him and the chances are that then your partner would still be spotty for the wedding and possibly worse as chicken pox is much nastier in adults.

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