Without going in to a lot of detail, dd1 is 7, and since she hit Y2 has been plagued with anxiety which has got gradually worse.
School are involved, it’s currently SATs month so she’s definitely feeling added pressure. She gets additional support wherever she feels she needs it.
She has however, had one issue which hasn’t seemed to ease and that’s her pooing herself. It’s happened at least 4 times in school, she hasn’t told anyone and has come home in a right state. She’s had an increase in water infections too (which she never used to have) and doctors have said to her it’s going to be related to these incidents. She then has to have antibiotics, and she’s allergic to the nice tasting stuff so she’s then suffering longer for it really.
She seems to have a bit of poo anxiety in general, she doesn’t like that poo makes her tummy feel different and without help she still sometimes struggles to get clean which stresses her out.
Today, she hasn’t even been at school (local water issue forcing school closure) and she’s had two incidents. The one this morning she said prior that she had a tummy ache, but didn’t get to the loo in time.
She’s then gone to bed, but come out 45 mins later saying it’s happened again. She said she thought she could hold it, but couldn’t. She was in floods of tears apologising, saying she doesn’t want me to be disappointed in her and doesn’t want me and her dad being angry at her.
Her dad was out so didn’t know about either of the incidents, so at this second one I’ve told her, nicely, that if there’s anything worrying her she can tell me. She can be honest with me about anything, and that she needs to listen to her body (so if her body tells her she might need to go to the loo, she has to go).
She’s then said her teacher sometimes doesn’t let her go to the toilet. Aibu to tell her that if she needs to go, she doesn’t have to ask she just tells them she needs to go?! They know about this being possibly linked to anxiety already so I’m a bit miffed they’re not letting her go.
Also, should I consider getting a doctors advice? Today was the first incidents in about a month but having two in one day seems awful for her.