2 year old. Worried it's a brain tumour or is it just teething

[Dad2017]

I know the subject sounds far fetched but I suffer with health anxiety so always panic.

Ever since birth our child was not the happiest of babys. He would whine alot and that has never changed. When he got to about 15 months he would run the back of his head alot and I did panic then but put it down to habit as he showed no pain.

Recently he says head when he gets upset but then it may be followed by a different part of the body but about every two weeks he always says legs like hes in pain.

I have done way to much googling but looking for reassurance.

He has been teething recently and seems like the bottom molars are causing an issue and taking forever. All his top ones have come in though so it's just thede last ones that seem to be causing an issue.

He wakes up either happy or sad and their us no in between. He has definitely hit the terrible twos as he has started pushing other kids, saying mine to everything and has a meltdown at least once a day.

I know I'm probably overthinking it and I'm so sorry for others who have actually been through this but I'm at the point where I'm drinking alot to num the anxiety. I have had counselling which did work but seems to go to one side when something like this happens and I go into meltdown. Along with the stress of our boy being very spirited I feel like I'm breaking badly.

He is still an absolutely lovely little boy and I love him more than anything in the world and will take him to the doctors next week but at the moment im struggling badly and thinking the worse :'(

Also wondering if they get growing pains at this age as he is on 99 percentile for height and weight. He eats like a trooper, sleeps from around 7:30/8-6/7.

My friends baby cried all the time for almost a year. Finally they sent him for a scan had he had fluid on his brain that would have caused intense head aches.

If you feel like something isn’t right push to get some one to listen to you

Please make a doctor’s appointment for yourself (not for him) to discuss your anxiety and the drinking.
For your DS, I would call the HV if you’re in the U.K. and have a chat about everything. They should also be able to give you some advice on handling his behaviour.

I know you worry, but are you asking him if his head hurts, and that is why he says it?.
Teething does make children very upset, so he is the right ages for that .....try to see that when they say. The chances of something are low, you would be so increably unlucky to be the one in million person who had a child with the illness.

Maybe write down all your worries in a book, the next day let yourself know these things did not happen .... By making a worry that you have a lot ,something you can disprove to yourself in you diary, it helps to desensitize you...

dad I have commented on a previous post of yours if you remember me, I also suffer from health anxiety and know how hard it can be to get a "disease" out of your mind once it's in there. The reason for this is because you are constantly on the look out for matching symptoms of whichever illness and when this happens your mind will always be able to interpret a behaviour to match up with a symptom of this illness. You told me in your previous post that you were seeking counselling through your work, that can't have been more than a month or so ago so I presume you can't have completed a full 8-12 sessions as recommended by NHS.

Drinking is never going to help you, I can tell you love your son very much and drinking to numb yourself can only destroy your relationship with him and probably his mother.

Like pp has said are you asking your son if his head hurts, legs hurt etc if so that will be one of the reasons he's saying those words, at 15 months he is only learning still how to talk, do you want to teach him your anxieties and make him focus/think on the same worries as you? Then please seek proper help and don't discuss your worries in front of your son nor instigate conversations with him regarding his head/leg.

I am not judging at all as I know fully how consuming this can be, I have went through therapy 3 times for this to keep it in check for the sake of my son who if he learnt this behaviour from me I would never forgive myself.

As someone else has said. Go to the doctors. I was put on a low dose of anti depressants and it did wonders for my anxiety.

Thanks everyone,

I was having a really bad week with stress which I think triggered my anxiety.

I have seen a counsellor before which helped massively and had a blip but now in contact with a mental health group which I will see every week to make sure i always have that support and God forbid if anything did happen in this situation i would be able to cope.

Thanks again everyone