Ds 16 having circumcision tomorrow..any advice please

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As above ...tried this thread on chat ...and it went wrong !!
Any advice on how i can help him/ ease his pain apart from pain killers
Many thanks

I’ve also posted this on your other thread.

Sitting in a warm bath.
Regular pain meds, alternating overlapping paracetamol and ibuprofen.
Ask for a local anaesthetic cream, though use this sparingly strictly adhering to the instruction leaflet.
Non adherent dressing loosely around the suture line. Cling film loosely when the wound dries, to prevent his pants rubbing. Tightish supporting pants - briefs not boxers.

Poor kid. Lots of distractions and treats. Is there are computer game or book he’s wanted for a while? Lots of sympathy and no jokes.

@FadedRed thank you ..i replied on the other thread to you before i saw this . .
Felt like i had gone into AIBU for a bit !

You say tightish pants not boxers ..is that due to the extra sensation bit .
He has a mixture of all but was going to ive him a long night shirt /t shirt thing of mine and avoid pants for a few days .
Ds 11 just lay with a towel over him !

Tightish pants for the same reason that this is recommended after vasectomy. Supportive and protective IYSWIM, stops the sore bits...erm...flopping about and getting ‘caught up’ when moving and walking. Not sure if I’m explaining myself clearly here.

I get it ...

My adult son recently had his second testicle torsion and needed surgery to correct that, he was advised to wear snuggish pants and not boxers.
I would also suggest you get him too drink lots so his urine doesn’t become concentrated as I guess the area may sting when he has a wee.
Hope all goes well for him.

Hope your DS is getting on ok.

@FadedRed ..thank you and pp for replying.
I have come back in the hope of helping someone else out who maybe needing help/advice.

@TinklyLittleLaugh thank you as well for replying.

Operation was fine ..no complications....but he was as high as a kite coming round from his GA .

I am the best mummy he has "ever" had ..i am the wonder mum ...and he loves me loads
That I was not expecting ..I had got myself ready for a grumpy / in pain teenager !
Took me a while to realise

Sore/uncomfortable that night.
Taking the bandage off the next day was painful for him ...and me to listen to.
They skip that part in discharge !!

Any how all good now ..he had a walk with his brother yesterday (Pokemon) thing .

And is now back to being a grummpy teenager... sooo all is good .

Pice up a book off the childrens libarary shelf to jokingly distract him ..
Flip the flap ...name the farm animals type of one ..."COCK" a doodle doo ..was not the best choice !!!

cock a doodle do! Brilliant choice! Glad he’s ok

Ah, glad he's doing well. I was going to advise... 'Don't kiss it better'...

my son has just recovered from this, was told tight undies but they made hime feel worse, kept sticking despite dressing and lubricant and caused him distress, so we went pant free and he was SO much happier, slept better and recovered quickly. Salt tepid baths were great too.

So glad I found this thread. Came back from consultants today as son has a severe case of phimosis - the foreskin doesn't retract at all.

The consultant says unless it bothers him we shouldn't do anything about it, but he really wants the circumcision. Given you guys have been through it - any thoughts? He's thirteen and it IS surgery...

namechanger, my son is now fully recovered and said its the best thing he ever did. He had pain and ballooning as well as tightness though. It appears he had abnormal skin and scar tissue, so it was super tight and completely covering so he was peeing out of a slit which was closing due to scar tissue forming from all the ballooning!

Yep name changer my son also got it done as a teenager and says he wishes it had been done sooner. He found erections painful so that wasn’t great for a teenager and he felt couldn’t tell me about it. He is an adult now and has a healthy and happy sex life now. Your son is old enough to make decisions about his own body in my view.

@Isadora2007 @starmaker123 your perspective has been really useful.

Because the doctor hasn't recommended the procedure (apparently if it's not causing recurrent infections it's not an issue) we have to pay for it.

Not an issue at all but made me feel perhaps it was more cosmetic and hence hesitation on my part. We're going to book for Easter half term. Thanks again!

my sons never caused infections either that were apparent, but all those ballooning and swelling from the urine which was trapped called internal scars, which we didn't know and couldn't see, however this wasn't known until removed. his symptoms were pain when urinating, ballooning and you couldn't see an opening at the end of the skin which
was pretty much closed over at the end.

@namechanger0064
I would ask your son about erections (maybe text him if you’re worried about him being embarrassed) as I would imagine that something preventing him from functioning normally should be considered a medical issue. You may not need to go private after all.

@Isadora2007 thank you.

He's actually been really open (he was the one that brought this up!) and asked we speak rather than text!

I spoke to insurers and they said they will cover it but either way you guys are right - he should choose what happens. Good to get your advice, thank you so much! x

Glad he made the right choice