This is no doubt going to be a long winded post so please bare with me but ANY help or advice is greatly appreciated. I left my husband of 7 years 5 months ago as the marriage was very destructive, he was very controlling in everything I did, from not being able to so much as speak to other men, to not being able to have a glass of wine after a stressful day at the office because he didn't approve. I lost touch with all my friends and ended up severely depressed as I felt trapped and as though I had no life. We were constantly arguing which affected the children (we have 2). Fast forward 5 months, 9yo DD is really struggling to accept the separation. She has gone from being a caring, loving child, to being hateful and angry towards myself and her older sister. She refuses to do anything she is asked, everynight is a row trying to get her to go to bed, some nights she is still up at midnight which means she is then a nightmare next morning when trying to get her up for school, if I so much as talk to a male while she is present she will scream at me, she physically attacks myself and her big sister, tells me I am selfish and the worst mother in the world for splitting the family up. When she is really angry she says she wants to kill herself! I have taken her to the doctors on a number of occasions but once we get there she refuses to get out of the car and starts attacking me. Our new neighbours have complained about us due to her shouting and screaming until late at night. I have tried all sorts and am at my wits end as to how I can improve things. If anyone has been through anything similar or has any advice I would love to hear it.