Is my 2 year old AUTISTIC? Please help!!

[Kayah123]

Hello ladies.

Okay so this post is long coming, i have put off from posting for the last few months because I have been scared and honestly not wanting to admit to myself but it is very apparent my son is not developing like a normal toddler should and it breaks my heart.

Firstly he is the most cute, charming little boy ever and i would not change him for the world, however hes behaviour is very challenging more so now than ever! he just turned 2 last month and honestly i have thought in my heart something is up with him since he was around 1 year old but just never wanted to admit it.

these are the things he does/ doesnt do.

1. he walks on his toes, not constantly tho
2. flaps hes hands
3. jumps all day long 4)humms pretty much from the minute he wakes up to the minute he goes to bed 5)has not spoke a single word- not even mummy or daddy 6)responds to name only when you call him several times 7)can throw violent tantrums 8)has this strange thing of licking everything, his toys, the wall basically anything, even people at times. 9)spins everything with wheels and wont play with them how he should 10)does not point at all/ never has

on the other hand, hes eye contact is very good, he loves to hug, he smiles and laughs a lot, he does follow basic instructions like come here, stop that, give me that. he can feed himself, uses a spoon as he should, drinks from a cup and not really fussy with food, he can eat anything, hes sleep is pretty decent.

i guess am just after some reassurance that everything will be okay as i have kind of already diagnosed him. i know i shouldn't but someone tell me how my son can do all of these things and nothing to be wrong with him, i guess i have already accepted that there is definitely something going on. he was referred to speech when he was 18 months, he went but nothing, he has now been referred for development checks where they will check if he is autistic or has any other condition, he starts nursery January and am very nervous and dont know how he will cope.

i also have a 5 month old and am in my most challenging times as my son can be a handful and dealing with an infant its a lot, i find my self shouting and screaming at times, i really need to find ways to cope because i am on a verge of loosing it.

My DD has all of this, she is under a paediatrician who doesn't think it is autism... she's seen Portage and speech therapy since her 2nd birthday and now 4'months on she's got a lot of single words....

@Kayah123
will he ever talk, will he learn how to cope, how will he be treated by others- just thinking about these things is upsetting and am constantly crying when i think about these things. I understand that its a very long road ahead i am just not sure how i will cope as its all just a bit much right now. I keep asking myself why my son? why him?

This was me 4 months ago!! Now every morning i get MU... MU... SHEEP... DU... SHEEP

This is my DD saying Mum Sheep on the Duggee programme 😂 don't write him of before he's got help! Does he go to nursery ??

Well ds didn't speak until he was seven but he did/does have "normal" speech quite quickly after that. But speech doesn't necessarily equal communication and that is still difficult despite him being intelligent. But you learn to interpret and pre empt just by looking and listening I think so we no longer have the challenging behaviours that were largely down to his frustration. He's just ds though, my lovely boy and whilst it's impossible to forget the autism it isn't the first thing I think of when someone mentions his name.

Possibly but also possibly not, none of what you say is exclusive to autistic children but I would get the wheels in motion for an assessment, it will take a while, meanwhile ensure you read together etc everyday and you talk to him a lot (about boring everyday things) to encourage speech, some kids are later and most autistic people talk eventually (age 4 for us).