How do you come to terms with attempted suicide?

[Evergreentree]

My ds tried to kill himself last New Year. It was by far the worst experience of my life. It’s so painful a year on I cannot talk about it. Sometimes my dh tries but he starts to cry and we stop. He is still not well, but better than he was, I think. But it’s had a massive impact on how I parent my other dcs. I know it is but I can’t stop myself. I feel frightened all the time. Has anyone else been through this?

Yes I have in my maternal family. When it got into the double figures attempt I ended up on medication.

You both need to talk about this or it'll eat you up. Remember oxygen mask on you first before your children. You both need to look after you or you can't help him or support your other children properly

Maybe counselling for both of you might help? Or maybe access some courses on understanding mental health and training for carers perhaps? It might help you both feel a bit more in control.

Thanks gamer yes had counselling, medication (which is all that keeps me going) and done a few courses. Have you found it’s affected how you parent your other dcs?

No it doesn't OP. This is why the talking about it part is so important. You and your husband are going through the same journey differently, you need to have that heart to heart. It's so important for you both.