I'd like everyone's honest input on this, it's a lot to read.
I was 15 when I met my daughters dad and he was 19, he was very controlling. I got pregnant at 16 and gave birth at 17. We split shortly after as he went full psycho and smashed my windows. I then was diagnosed with post natal depression where I actually didn't look after my daughter for 6 months until I saw sense. He still tries to say I'm insane now, tells me he's over paying me money for our daughter (which he is not). He use to bully me into letting him have her 3 nights a week ( we agreed on 2 ) and he then started claiming benefits for her (which he denies) he's pulled some pretty shitty stunts and I can't take it anymore
- he's told me to get an STI check on my daughter as he got ghonnarea himself and apparently she may have caught it while sharing a bath with him, he told me he smelt her parts and they smelled funny so I need to go to the doctors
- he told me there was white stuff in her vagina that wasn't normal so again we need to get a STI check (it was nappy rash cream)
- she comes back with nappy rash every single time from his house (I put this down to him using a size small nappies for her) but it is red raw around her inner and outer lips
- she doesn't get naked in front of anyone but me
- she refuses baths, she's in absolute hysterics when we try
- she won't even go near men
- most recently she's scared to get in her bed
Is this behaviour normal for a just turned 2 year old????? Me and her father don't see eye to eye but we've kept things civil for her sake however when we had an argument regarding sleeping arrangements at his house it raised concern. I have been telling him since we split BUY A COT GET HER HER OWN ROOM!!! There's nothing wrong with the occasional cosleeping, but she was in his bed every night while at his, he never bothered to get her a bed or anything which I saw as unhealthy. So I said she's not staying over until she gets a bed and he got her one eventually but gave me a lot of grief over it he brought up me being mental and sent me a few texts asking me not to harm her and he's worried, trying to make me out to be the bad one as per. But he harasses my phone very often at least 30 calls if not more so my sister had answered to tell him to stop basically and he said to her im mental and it's not like he's doing anything while she's in his bed???????? Which has put a little worry in my head I'm not gonna lie and my sister agrees he is very very strange! He cheated on me a lot, with younger girls one girl was 15... am I over reacting here????? Is it time to get some sort of help😩
I'd never forgive myself if I was overlooking it? And I can't exactly ask him if anything's going on because it would literally be ww3!