Hello, I have a long story I wanted to get off my chest to check if I'm being unreasonable or not. One of my family member child spent about a week in a hospital when he was born due to an unknown virus. He had antibiotics and returned home and was fine. We knew both the parents were tested for herpes which didn't come up with anything. That's all we knew at the time. After a while he kept having blisters on his fingers which looked very sore and painful. We didn't know what to think of them so weren't worried. All we heard was that it's something to do with lymph nodes. About a year later when I actually tried to find out what it was ( felt too awkward to ask the parents and they never mentioned it) I found out it was Herpes. When I asked the family about they said oh we thought you knew. The point was that we didn't know because the H word was never mentioned. I don't have an issue with Herpes ( I get cold sores so I get it) but the fact that we were never told and I have small children who used to play together all the time. There were times when the Mum of that child would tell her child to point at my babies eyes and mouth etc which now thinking about it I find really annoying considering that's the main way to spread it. I know it's not a major condition and a lot of people have it but am I being ridiculous trying to avoid my children having it? All I was waiting for was the parents to tell us just so we can just be more vigilant because of the children's age they are not. There's so much more to this story but I'm trying to keep it short. Another issue was that when I enquired from the Herpes association about what should be done to avoid it (after the parents kept saying that their kids blisters don't pop and it's not contagious etc) They agreed that it would be sensible to cover the blisters to avoid passing it on. All I was trying to do is keep my children safe and I never had a problem with Herpes but the parents attitude about it and they way they couldn't care less about anyone else's children. We now have zero contact after not agreeing on this matter and being called stupid because we didn't ask if he had it ( who goes around asking if people have herpes? I wasn't even aware there was such a thing like herpes of the fingers). What do you think am I being too unreasonable about it?