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DD first period at 10 I'm freaking out!

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Summersoul · 28/07/2017 08:18

Hey Mners
I am totally freaking out my DD woke me up at 5am having started her first period!!!! She started puberty about 9 months ago in terms of breast development but doesn't have pubic hair or any other physical signs. She has been horrendously moody for about 3 months tho and just not herself. I didn't start mine until I was about 12 to 13 so I am really surprised this has happened. My mum died when I was young so not able to ask her our family traits etc. Luckily I have been very open about all of this with DD so she is ok and just getting on with it so far. Anyone else have experience of early periods. Do I need to get her to see a dr with her being so young
Thanks guys x

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Redsippycup · 28/07/2017 08:20

It's perfectly fine - that's not an early period, it's a normal age.

Don't worry!

LoniceraJaponica · 28/07/2017 08:21

It feels early to me. Average age when I started was 13.

Pikachuwithyourmouthclosed · 28/07/2017 08:21

I don't think it's very young, is it? Certainly not a reason to go to the doctor. My dd is 11 and many of her friends have started already.

OP remember that this is about her. Even if you are "freaking out", keep that hidden. She needs a calm, helpful, matter of fact mum who she can ask questions to.

BasedOnTrueEvents · 28/07/2017 08:22

It's normal OP. On the younger side of normal but still fine. The NHS website might be reassuring. Here

Zoflorabore · 28/07/2017 08:23

Hi op, try not to worry, it's perfectly normal.
I was 10. I did have all of the other signs of puberty so it was no big surprise, the only difference was that I was on a plane to Majorca

So I would take dd out today to find her some appropriate sanitary wear, I know that Tesco do a lovely range for young girls, they have little patterned tins to keep the pads in etc.
Schools are usually very well equipped these days, I was in year 6 in the late 80's and there were no sanitary bins and I used to hate it. My dd is only 6 but I know they have these at her school.

My niece was also 10 and her sister started her periods at 14 so it can vary massively.

I have spoken to my own dd about it as I'm sure she will be young like I was and I don't want her to freak out.

ChickenBhuna · 28/07/2017 08:27

My daughter was also 10 OP. A lot of girls in her have had theirs too.

I , like you , was a bit freaked out but apparently 10 is normal these days.

HalfShellHero · 28/07/2017 08:28

I was 10 when i started back inthe late 90s like a pp said y6 in school no sanitary bins etc it was horrible. I hope things have moved on.

PanannyPanoo · 28/07/2017 08:28

My friend started at 10 I was 11. Its the younger side of normal rather than abnormal.

Undercoverbanana · 28/07/2017 08:29

You have a daughter. Her period has started. You're freaking out? Really? Come on, OP. As a mum to a daughter you need to get a grip. You are a role model to a young woman who needs to be encouraged to be brave, strong, confident and proud.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/07/2017 08:30

You don't need to see a doctor,10 is perfectly normal.

joannegrady90 · 28/07/2017 08:30

It's not early op it's a about average.

I started my periods age 11, already had pubic hairs and breasts by then.

Hugs though!

MamaHanji · 28/07/2017 08:30

Honestly 10 is fine! I started mine at 10. The less freaked out you are about it and be really open with her about sanitary products and pain relief and emotions...she'll be fine, honestly!

ChickenBhuna · 28/07/2017 08:33

A bit harsh , Undercoverbanana , it's natural for a parent to have a mini-panic as their children show signs of growing up. I've had those moments with each of mine.

kingfishergreen · 28/07/2017 08:33

I believe (probably from reading it on Mn) that 'early' is any age 8 or under, that's when it is advised to see a GP. Older than 8 is considered normal.

I also started my periods when I was 10 (in 1989) though I believe the average age today is lower now than it was then (it seemed like most of my friends started their period aged 12).

Of course it's a bit of a shock for you, it's a very obvious sign that you DD is growing up.

What she needs right now is reassurance that it's normal and manageable.

BertrandRussell · 28/07/2017 08:35

Young side of normal- please don't let her see you "freaking out"

A couple of things. This may be the start of regular periods, but it also may not be- some girls have one, then not have another for ages.

And sometimes girls have really heavy periods right from the start, and the cutesy teenage products just aren't up to the job. Be prepared for that.

Teddy7878 · 28/07/2017 08:37

I was 9 and the doctor said it was on the early side of normal. 8 years or below is deemed as early and would warrant some investigation.
Mine were extremely heavy after about 6 months of starting. To the point I'd have to have time off school as I was doubled over in pain and leaking through sanitary pads. After about a year of this they calmed down and I've had a normal flow and minimal pain ever since

Undercoverbanana · 28/07/2017 08:37

Not meant to be harsh ChickenBhuna. Apologies to OP if I sounded harsh. I was just thinking of the dd and her needs. I am clearly a bit odd because I didn't freak out when my children went through any "growing up moments". I knew they were coming and just calmly supported them. Perhaps things were different back in the day.

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Summersoul · 28/07/2017 08:38

Thanks so much everyone
Undercover I find your post adds no value to this thread and actually really rude!

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Bumpsadaisie · 28/07/2017 08:38

I was almost 14 but I believe most of the Y6s at our school (so 10/11) have started already.

Bumpsadaisie · 28/07/2017 08:38

I think children are getting healthier and taller/bigger so they start sooner ....

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Summersoul · 28/07/2017 08:39

I should also point out they at no point did she see me freaking out that was a me in the bathroom moment I have always been very open to both dds so they find it all very natural x thanks for the posts guys xxx

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/07/2017 08:41

I think undercover's post was fine

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Summersoul · 28/07/2017 08:42

I think that's a matter of opinion. I believed this forum was for offering support and advice to parents neither of which was in that post!!!

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NouveauBitch · 28/07/2017 08:42

Like others on this thread I started at 10 in the late 80s with the horror of no facilities in the school bathrooms - and then they installed one sanitary bin, outside the cubicles for us when we asked for one, which was worse.

The one thing I'll add to the above advice is to buy her some adult knickers in a small size. Children's pants didn't accommodate sanitary towels very well when I started - I appreciate that they're a lot thinner now - but it was both from a bulk and shape aspect and very uncomfortable.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/07/2017 08:45

The advice was to be strong and supportive as you'd said you were freaking out- which you've now said you weren't.

Good luck,I'm sure she'll/ you'll be fine

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