I've just ordered DS the WetStop bedwetting alarm.

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He's 13.

Been back and forth to the GP. No joy. They keep giving him Descompressin which isn't doing anything for him.

School nurses were pretty useless. Told us to try stuff which we'd already tried (I'm no numpty - I'd trawled the internet for advice over the years) and whenever we went back and explained their suggestions hadn't worked we'd have to 'try them again'.

Lately they're just dodging my calls. I kept being told they'd get a message to the relevant person and call me back but never did.

He was totally dry. Then he got pretty badly bullied and it started again.

He's now 5'9" and doing adult sized amounts of wee. The washing is bumming me out. I've taken on more hours and I can't be washing his duvet and sheets every day.

I bought him Tena pants but half the time he forgets to put them on and they leak anyway. They just don't hold enough wee.

So, I've ordered the alarm and a load of cotton boxers for him to wear in bed.

I want him to be happy. I want this to stop. It's not fair on him to feel crap about this.

What else can I do? I've been feeling very helpless for a while.

It's also really hard to talk to him about, given his age.

I'm going to set us a routine. He goes to bed at around 9pm, so would no drinks after 7pm be reasonable?

I'm all in a muddle about the whole thing.

DS is 7. We bought this book. It didn't work but three months in plus an alarm and magnesium spray we are finally getting somewhere. It's so exhausting!!

I also bought waterproof covers for his pillows and his duvet from Amazon. The pillow covers were good but the duvet one rustles a lot so made him quite tired as it kept him awake.

The alarm cracked it for DS at 10.5 - fingers crossed.

Good luck with it. Am interested to see how you get on. DS2 is nearly 8 and desperate to stop bed wetting (he has never been dry at night) but is very reluctant (i.e. tantrum) at the idea of trying an alarm. I know from what ive read that he's probably just at the extreme end of 'normal' but he wants to go to cub camp next summer and feels he won't be able to if not dry-he is paranoid about anyone outside the family knowing, so won't allow me to discuss pull-ups etc with the leaders. I feel desperate for him too, but if he's not ready to try an alarm don't know what else I can do.

The Wetstop cracked it for us. Results within a week. Dc was 8 and wetting twice a night. Good luck.

I do hope so.

Am working tonight so it's still in it's box but my plan for tomorrow afternoon is to wash his duvet and bedding for him and fire the bad boy up.

Being 13 he got quite a few 'grown up' presents so I'm hoping that'll give him a nudge.

Hope all goes well tonight kingjoffrey
Thanks calypso that's encouraging, maybe I need to explore some bribery tactics to get DS2 to give it a go.

let me know if that alarm works. DS 11 and he still wets the bed. not every night but four nights out of 7. And like you say, when they're not tots anymore, it seems to flood the place. I find pools of wee under the bed.

is descompressin worth a go? I have just assumed that a gp can't do anything to help.

my first born ds was a night bed wetter still at 13 - we tried alarms and medication from the gp, nothing worked

a lovely pharmacist in my local chemist suggested Ignatia - a homeopathic teeny tiny tablet to try

worked first night and after a week or so i stopped them and he was fine!

We tried an alarm. It worked a bit. The desmopressin helped much more but you've tried that with no luck. Ask your GP or school nurses to refer you to the local enueresis service for specialist help and support; at 13 his self esteem must be struggling, and not easy for you either, I hope you can get it sorted.

lookingforbaubles - I'm really interested in finding out more about the ignatia. I've had a little read up on the British/national homeopathic society (? Can't remember exactly what it's called!) site and they offer a few options. I think I'm going to give it a go. I too have a 13 year old and all the traditional routes have proved fruitless.

We just had great success with an alarm for DS. He's only seven but had never had a dry night. We got the Astric medical one after recommendation from a friend.
It has been brilliant. First few weeks we had only tiny wet patches as it caught him in time to get up and finish the wee in the loo. After three weeks he's been dry for 10 days with only one small blip over Christmas (likely exhausted).
We used towels over the mat and he had to sleep without underwear.

My son is 13. He's been on desmopressin for several years - I didn't like the idea of him having medication every day but nothing else worked. He had the best outcome from desmomelts - same drug but I think as they are melts they are absorbed into the system more quickly so become active faster than the normal desmopressin. They were especially useful for Cub and Scout camp and school trips. Anyway, to give you all some hope (I thought this would never end - at the Eneuresis clinic they told us he would learn to live with it, and it would become less of an issue as he got older and slept for fewer hours....) he seems to be becoming dry at last. He stopped taking the melts without telling us - must have decided he was ready or was going to make it work. I think he's been off them for a couple of months and has been wet maybe once a week in that time. So, not completely there but a huge improvement. He is waking in the night to go to the loo which he never used to do. I've also noticed that drinking a lot during the day seems to help, I understand it stretches the bladder so it can hold more at night. A cheap new plastic cup for Christmas, with a Star Wars design and a straw, has seen him drinking all day, which is great. Sorry for the long post, but don't give up hope! The downside is this change may be related to puberty so maybe my lovely soon is about to turn into a spotty grumpy teen......

we really did try every thing,
scans-all normal,
clinic appointments where we were just told not to react and ride it out, an alarm which he slept thru,
waterproof covers so no fussing about washing
medication from the gp
but he really was upset about it and refused to go on sleep overs because of it

i rang up weleda and spoke to some one there before i gave him the ignatia, who said yes it might be helpful but if it didnt to call back and they would suggest other ones which might help.

I now have some Ignatia tablets. Had to order them online.

They come with no instructions though and I can find nothing online.

What time should he take them?

ive sent you a pm with a link in it - hope its helpful

Kewl. Thank you!

Dd1 (9) has been dry since September thanks to an alarm! She was sometimes wetting the bed two or even three times a night. It took her about three weeks and it was quite stressful to start with but so so worth it. And she did all the drinking loads of water earlier in the day to wake her bladder up, which helped, but she still wees at least once a night - the difference is she wakes herself up now nearly always. We found the siren sound of the alarm horrible and upsetting but having it on vibrate totally worked for her.I think the one we used had vibrate only/vibrate plus sound/sound only settings.
Good luck!

KingJoffrey has the alarm worked for your son?

When ds was 8 last year,we went to see a specialist continence nurse and we were given a pyjama alarm.It took about 2-3 weeks and apart from one night wetting the bed,he has been completely dry at night.Ds had been wetting the bed every night so it was fantastic to sort it out.

Ocean sounds did you get appt via your GP?

Sorry walkingwe have been away, just seen your message,i think we were referred by our school nurse.She was excellent.