I have health anxiety so please help (photo)

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I don't know if it's my anxiety or I should be worried. DS (5) has this little tiny petechia like spot on his chest - photo attached.

He's had a few over the last week or so, isolated (so not a rash of them) and in different places - under his arm, back, chest. They have coincided with a very physical phase of enjoying wrestling with his friends and DH, so the rational part of my brain is telling me it's probably little marks he's picking up from that. But the HA is yelling leukaemia, obviously.

They fade in a couple of days and he is otherwise as healthy as anything. Huge appetite, energetic, not losing weight, no other bruises (beyond those typical of a 5yo boy - banged shins etc which all heal and fade fast), can't remember the last cold or temperature he had.

DH thinks a trip to the GP is unnecessary and it's my anxiety. I hope it is but wonder if I should get him checked out. But don't want to start dragging him to the gp just because I can't manage my anxiety, it's not fair on him. Am I being mad? Would you worry about this?

But he might get more if he continues to play in the same way?

GP appts here are very hard to get and I'd be mightily pissed off if somebody was taking their child to an appt with a few marks after having repeatedly played roughly. Your DH sounds far less anxious, can you trust his judgement?

much l don't think you should comment. You sound unsympathetic to mental health issues.
Fine, you don't get it -think op shouldn't have taken an appointment
However, the doctor should be there for all , if op needs help,she needs help. Same as if she'd hurt her foot! You don't get to choose who gets to see a medic!

No, I get it fine Turtle.

OP is talking about getting her dc an appt with the GP which is what I've responded to.

I agree that OP herself may need to have some support, she's already been directed towards that but not yet taken the steps to access it.

I just can't see how you'd be miffed if she took an appointment
There is no rational thinking with an issue like hers. Hopefully the doctor will help. Even if indirectly.

Actually I agree with much. HA won't go away , it will just refocus on something else: a tiny bald patch, a weird bruise, an odd walk etc etc.

Taking your kid to the GP for reassurance isn't solving the problem, it's perpetuating it. Maybe have a chat with your dh about things you both feel you'd need to check out so you know it's not just down to you.

She's perfectly entitled to get an appointment if she wants something checked out!

If she hadn't said she had anxiety, I bet you would all have been the first to say "check with the GP"!

Really? Wow I'm assuming you're down there every ten minutes then! No way would I go for a tiny red mark that appeared every so often with no other symptoms.

Muchtoomuchtodo Is right when they say could dh be trusted to make a judgment on health concerns op has.
I have generalised anxiety disorder and as part of my cbt therapy we discussed my dh as being trustable when my anxiety has taken hold. I can ask him and trust what he says in response.
As far as the doctor, they are there for us to make appointments with.
I would recommend trying some cbt to combat the anxiety. I find it really exhausting.

The anxiety not cbt! Where's my wine? I've had anxiety since the weekend! Gah!

OP if it's any comfort I get these all the time. Obviously when I first noticed them I frightened myself silly with Dr Google. I'm still alive 10 years later and appear to be fit and well. Still get them all the time. There is nothing wrong with getting things checked out with your GP though.

This thread is confusing me.

I started it for the exact reason that I don't want to drag my dc to the GP every time I get anxiety and waste everyone's time. My anxiety means I find it hard to differentiate between something minor/benign and something scary. I got told off for that, and told that only a doctor could reassure me.

Now I say I'm taking him and that is wrong too.

I'm fully aware I need help and am seeking that now. You're right that my anxiety will just focus elsewhere now I've been reassured.

Thank you to those providing reassurance and suggesting coping strategies. They sound sensible and like they might help.

Well I think you got a rough ride.

Of course you shouldn't go to the GP every time you get anxious about a symptom. But it's not black and white - people without anxiety get things checked out too! In this case, it's simple enough to mention it to the GP and see what they think, so why not? That's reasonable. It would be (in my opinion) unreasonable to go again or go chasing another opinion unless anything changes, so now you can concentrate on other things.

Perfectly sensible approach, in
my humble opinion!

I say that to my dh! You said this and now you say that, which one do you mean?!
You are more aware of your anxiety than you think. You knew that the mark was probably nothing and not to go. In these situations could you trust your dh to confirm that it's probably nothing?