Two year old behaviour, terrible twos or something else.

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Hey Everyone,
I have been mulling this over for while, my DS (my 2nd child) has just turned two, and I feel there is just something not quite right with him.
He is extremely bad tempered, always has been.
It takes him a long time to warm up to people, he hates being touched by children he doesn't know. e.g a child his age touched him in the park and he stood and "told him off" for it. But then spent ages interacting with a little boy much older than him.
He has delayed speach, but understands everything he is instructed to do, and can actually reason with him when he has a tantrum.
When he is doing something he enjoys he will play for a long time, so he is able to concentrate on one task for about 30 mins.
But if an adult says hello to him while he is in his pushchair he puts his hands over his eyes and kind of "tells them off" you know wagging finger etc.
There is just something that doesn't seem right with him.
I am just wondering is it just a bit of shyness and the terrible two? Or something else?

It is difficult to tell at this age isn't it?
Some of that sounds fairly average for his age. How does he cope in new situations or with changes in routine?
Have you noticed any obvious triggers for tantrums or unusual behaviour?
What about sensory stuff? Wet/cold/sticky/loud..?
If you are concerned I would contact your GP.

Yeah it is really difficult, I thought maybe it was a sensory thing. But I have been paying real attention to triggers and there doesn't seem to be anything that bothers him, apart from me touching his hair.
It is usually when you take something from him or don't pass him something quickly enough, he just starts shouting, and it's real finger wagging, telling off shouting.
He gets incredibly frustrated and I think that has to do with his speech delay, (which is really coming on well recently).
I am not sure whether I am just used to dealing with a girl, and he is just a boy, he is fearless and tends to dive off everything he can find head first, but it's just the bad temper, and hatred of people talking to him.
he tends to be okay in new situations as long I stay close, but he will quite happily run around and explore. There is just something I can't quite put my finger on, if that makes sense? x

The shouting and telling off is pretty normal for a kid his age I think. Also the lack of fear and understanding of consequences. I've known several children that would just launch themselves off stuff. My second daughter is a bit like this.
As I said, you know him, you are his mother, if you feel something isn't right I'd start investigating as it can be a long process.

What you have said sounds like a lot of 2yr olds but if you are worried see your GP...just to put your mind at rest.
IME some toddlers are the bossiest people I have ever met.

Yes, I think I am just adjusting to him being soooo different to my daughter. He is extremely bad tempered and spent the majority of yesterday having a tantrum, he got himself so wound up he ended up launching himself head first off the sofa and hurt himself. the shock of it made him stop screaming, the he started again because he hurt himself! it just seems to be a cycle of stuff like this at the moment.
He is such hard work. Have made an appointment at with the health visitor to check he is on track, I think a lot of it is due to his speech delay he just gets really frustrated. thanks for the responses. x