has anybody had a child who has been scalded by hot drinks? feel so alone at the min

[Sasha1234]

my daughter who is two scalded on mcdonalds coffee she has 7% burns and deeper burns over her shoulder this happend 7 weeks ago so she is all healed but been left scarred so we are under the scar managment and she has to wear a high pressure garment for 18month for 22 hours a day. im tottaly devasted but just thakfull she has healed with no skin grafts. has anyone been in the same position as me. i relive it all the time

I'm sorry, I have no experience of this, but if you are re-living it, it might help to talk it through with someone in real life? Being along with our thoughts can be very scary x

You have done really well helping her to heal, presumably you have had to deal with a poorly daughter, hospital trips, dressings, questions from hcp and its ongoing with her needing the pressure garment. accidents happen but you are looking after your daughter and prob thanks in a large part to your care she is going to be fine where she may not have been.

My son pulled a cup of tea on himself from a high surface when he first started standing. He was fine, I dont think it was that hot and I held his feet under running water for ages; but it could have been different and I can still remember the horrified feeling. I probably beat myself up about it at the time anyway. I have heard a few sloshed coffee stories so it does happen and I am so sorry your daughter has suffered burns. Like Mille says maybe speak to someone if it is affecting you or you are punishing yourself excessively by thinking about it?

www.cmft.nhs.uk/published/UserUpload/file/A%20Guide%20To%20Burns%20Aftercare.pdf This hospital document on burns aftercare has a section on how it is very common for parents to feel guilty about scars and I think if you mention it to someone in the burns aftercare department maybe they will have someone you can talk to about your feelings or can refer you.

Please don't be too hard on yourself. I know someone who had a scald from a hot drink as a baby and although they do have a scar, it doesn't affect them at all & their mum & dad just made it clear that there is more to life than purely beauty. Hugs to u & ur dd

An entirely different situation in cause, but DD had to wear a pressure garment on her foot for just over a year to help with the scarring. (we were under Guys hospital and the Evelina). She was very comfortable with it on and it was replaced regularly for her as she grew. I am pleased to say that I think her scar is pretty good all things considered and we have very little problem with it. I hope your daughter gets a similarly good outcome here. She was around 20 months when she had a large open wound that needed to heal and is now 4yrs old.

My dd suffered a scald over the left side of her chest and stomach when she was helping me to make tea and accidentally tipped the cup. She was 5 at the time and I remember throwing water over her and then covering her with wet towels. We are very lucky she hasn't been left with any scars (she is 11 now), but at the time all the skin came away and she had a large, raw wound that took a long time to heal. At the time we kept hearing about others who had done the same - sadly accidents do happen- don't blame yourself.

It's a very common accident. No matter how careful you are it only takes a second for a toddler to grab or knock a hot drink. My ds did it aged 14 months. We were lucky in that he just had a bad surface burn a and healed with just a dressing and no scars. i'll never forget that day. But 11 years on he has. Hope everything goes well for your daughter's recovery and she can forget it too.