10 year old not eating much -psycho logical?

[SillyTilly123]

My nearly 10 year old dd used to be a fantastic eater, everyone used to comment on how good she was, then when she was 5/6 the headmaster of the school told a story in assembly about how farmers shoot the animals we eat and ever since she has been really picky. (she knew the meat we ate was animals, but I think at 5/6 she didnt need to know how it got to the table)

It started just not eating meat (except a few choice things -mcds chicken nuggets, belly pork and taco mince ) but has now overtook almost everything. Its getting to the point where I'm considering taking her to the gp after the new year. She won't eat normal stuff like cereal, eggs, cheese, sausages, burgers, spag bol (she'll eat pasta) pizza etc she will eat toast if shes really hungry, I've noticed shes not even been eating fruit anymore.

She will eat veg (loves sprouts), chips, jacket potatoes (with cheese- yes she wont eat cheese on its own but on a jackets its ok? though I think shes starting to go off these) ham sandwiches but only with crisps to take the taste of the ham away. Not much else tbh.

Come the new year I'm going to start to get tough on it as its really upsetting me and wearing me down.

What I'm worried about is incase it turns into an eating disorder so I'm not sure how I should be acting? Nonchalant? Making her eat it? Say 1 bite and you can have dessert?

Any advice would be welcome. I've posted this in chat before but just seeing if theres any different advice.
Thanks.

My 10 year old son is the same - eats very little and although he is a bit of a stick insect, he's still just just on the normal band. Is she on the right weight band? If she is not and it is a huge band, leave well alone. You will give her food issues if you let it get to you. When my children get picky, hoping I will make them something they like (as if I want to prolong my kitchen life), I scoop up their food saying "don't worry you won't starve" and put the contents of the plate straight into the chicken scraps bowl along with half a Weetabix from the morning or tops&tails of beans. They know that's it. It's meant that although they do not appear to celebrate what I cook as much, they at least don't say, "oo-er, I don't like it". Healthy repression is not a bad diet; we already do far too much for our children and it's not setting them up to be adaptable in life, like all of our generation are. Stop worrying about her, unless she is underweight. If you are brought up on a farm, as I was, it's just as bad because you see animals carted off and wonder if you are going to be next. It's a pity the teacher said the animals were shot. There is no need for children to know any ghastly details.

I don't think shes underweight, my bathroom scales have needed new betteries for ages so I've not weighed her in a while.

So do you make whatever you are making for tea, even if you know he won't eat it? Do you just not mention it? If he eats he eats if he doesn't he doesn't? Sorry can't remember if you said about dessert? do you still give it even if he eats a little?

Her typical day is no breakfast, I pay for school dinners but she usually comes home having had just chips or a jacket (not allowed packed lunches) and fruit salad, then packet crisps for a snack when she gets in (im stopping this) then picks at tea.