Overactive bladder?

[UnknownGnome]

I'm feeling really sad for my ds (7) at the moment.

A bit of background first. He petty trained around the age of 3 with no issues. He's had a few dry nights over the past few years but mainly he's wet every night. Sometimes he wees so much that his pullup leaks. During the day he goes to the toilet with great frequency and the feeling of needing a wee seems to come on with great urgency.

Today he came home from school having wet himself. He tried to hide it from me but i found his trousers and pants. He explained that the teacher wouldn't let him go to the toilet because he'd already been once. The thought of him sitting in class wetting himself because he's been denied access to the toilet makes me want to cry

He's agreed to speak to a Dr which is something he's refused to do up until now, but he doesn't under any circumstances want me to talk to his teacher. I couldn't get him into the doctor's for two weeks and, while i respect his wishes and i understand his embarrassment, i don't want him being forced to wet himself again in the meantime.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I feel so helpless and i hate to think of him being upset and uncomfortable at school. I'm.also so scared that if it happens again someone will notice

Potty trained not petty, obviously!

Please speak to the school. Explain that he'd be mortified if he knew you had, and ask them to let him go, but not talk about it with him.
The teacher would be mortified to think that he was wetting himself in class when he could so easily be allowed to go.

I need to don't i? I'm just not sure how to get to him without ds seeing me. I want to tell him tomorrow so that it doesn't happen again.

Phone the school and explain, or (if you take him in?) go into the office once he's gone into school.
Depends on the school really as to if you are comfortable talking with the Receptionist or if you want to ask for a member of the teaching staff who isn't in class at that point, or if you prefer to ask them to ask the class teacher to ring you at earliest convenience, and emphasise that it's private but urgent..... (this might not be best way, as, if they are on playground duty in the morning, it's still going to be lunchtime before they can call you back).

I'm going to try to catch the teacher this morning under the pretence of talking to him about homework. I just really hope ds doesn't realise. I don't want to break his trust.

Thanks for the advice.