I don't seem to know when my DD is poorly...

[IcouldstillbeJoseph]

I know that sounds ridiculous...
DD is 8mo, my second child - I also have a 2yr old DS.
DS has always been sickly and bug-prone. He also has severe glue ear so has been plagued by ear infections.
I have always been able to tell he is sickening/poorly a mile off as he changes so much.

Anyway, DD at 10 weeks was admitted for bronchiolitis, for 4 days. Had NG tube, O2 therapy etc. But I'd only taken her to the GP as DS was poorly (he got admitted too, it was a fun week ) and the GP asked if he could listen to her chest. She seemed fine to me and I thought she just had a cold/cough.

Well, today she woke up with blood discharging from her ear. GP assumes drum rupture secondary to ear infection (can't see properly as ear canal full of blood/debris) But I honestly had not a clue she was poorly! She's been a tiny bit grumpy but otherwise fine IMO.

I know this founds daft but I'm starting to worry I might miss something now! I'm a bloody HCP too!

Don't worry. It doesn't mean you are a bad mother. There are obvious answers here - the first time your son clearly was worrying you and your focus was on him at the time, the second time - well exactly that happened with DD2. The first I knew was when she had a discharge from her ear, but she hadn't moaned or been poorly with it at all. I think these things can happen. The fact that it worries you is all you need to know that you will be watching her like a hawk and if there are problems you will spot them I'm sure.

So are more difficult to tell than others. My DD was just had a swelling behind her ear that was slightly tender, no temperature, laughing and giggling. She fooled one of the most experience paediatric ENT surgeons in the country who thought he was taking her to theatre to drain a small abscess. In fact he found himself treating a full blown mastoid abscess just hours from becoming bacterial meningitis.

Thank you both
Lonecat - my DS has also had bacterial mastoiditis. Bloody evil