jennyapples, I was a bit concerned about ds1 taking propranolol myself, but it is tiny amounts (about 0.5mls I think twice a day) and we never saw any side affects, and he was very well monitored. With regards to laser treatment we were told that it is not something they would normally consider, as the strawberry marks do tend to fade (I think he said it was a 90% chance - can't remember exactly though), and for the haemangioma it is not something that would help at all as it is a deformity of the blood vessels. I think they used to use steroids to treat them, but we were told propranolol was a much better and safer choice. We didn't have any regrowth after we stopped using it, but it may have been out of that growth period by then.
With regards to not having to treat it, we had the decision made by the fact it might have started to push onto his eyeball and affect vision, however, there were other things to consider, such as we were told if he knocked it then it would bleed profusely (luckily he always managed to avoid falling there!). My ds1's haemangioma is also in a very prominent place on his face and we were worried that the fact it was so large and still growing would affect him from a social point of view - it wasn't about him not having perfect skin, but that it can be very hard to look different.
You are so right though awakemysoull it is the adults that are cruel. They were definitely in the minority, but when ds1 was a baby we had some adults stop and point at him and make loud comments to each other, or others would ask if I dropped him
. The worst one I had was at the school gates when a woman looked at ds and then proclaimed to her friends "urgh look at that baby, that horrible lump is all you see isn't it" which had me crying all the way home. BUT, and it is a big but, not one child has ever made a comment about it to him which I think says a lot and I feel pretty confident he won't have any problems at school even if it doesn't go completely.
We probably have an adult a day ask him if he has bumped his head, which he is starting to get a bit annoyed with, but I just politely say "no, it's a birthmark" and I hope he will learn to just say that and be confident. It upset me for a while when he was a baby, but now we just see it as a total part of him - it would be strange if it wasn't there! I am very glad we used the propranolol though as it did make a huge difference to the colour and size of it, although I totally appreciate it is not for everyone and as I said in my last post I know other children who had one (including DD) and they faded almost completely on their own. Good luck with it all, it can be a pretty lonely thing as there is not much info available I found. Like I said, pm if you want :)