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I am the worst Mum in the world.

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Faith48 · 17/09/2013 20:17

My 4 week old just rolled off the sofa onto the floor :( I haven't stopped crying.

Will he have long term damage?

He deserves a better Mum.

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SPBisResisting · 17/09/2013 20:19

Does he seem OK? How Is he?

SPBisResisting · 17/09/2013 20:21

and btw I am NOT a medical person, so I say get him checked out if you're worried. However my initial reaction is

most babies have rolled off a bed or a sofa (min included)
vast majority are fine and I'm sure yours will be too
you should get yourself checked - you sound down. Your baby would not be better off with any other mum - you are his mum.

TessTackle · 17/09/2013 20:21

Firstly, I hope your LO is ok. Please continue to keep an eye on him, some injuries won't show right away.

Secondly [hugs] these things happen, whether out of carelessness or I'll just be a second-ness. Don't beat yourself up. Even the biggest parenting nazis have done it or similar. It doesn't make you a shitty mum x

headlesslambrini · 17/09/2013 20:21

Is he still crying?

Babies are pretty resilient.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/09/2013 20:22

Oh goodness I think this has happened to nearly all of us, please don't worry.

Putting aside your upset for the moment, how is your baby?

ElectricSoftParade · 17/09/2013 20:22

Oh petal, I think this has happened to just about everyone. Mine was when I walked through a door and managed to crack DD's head. She was only a week old and there was blood everywhere.

Both DCs had the rolling off the bed too. I'm sure your baby will be fine and hope you are feeling better soon. Best wishes.

AmandinePoulain · 17/09/2013 20:23

Dd2 rolled off our bed last weekend. She's fine!

Is your baby awake, alert and feeding ok?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/09/2013 20:23

Yes I am more worried about you than him. How are you coping generally?

I mean that nicely because you do sound down. Of course he doesn't need another Mum, you are his Mum and the only one he needs or wants.

AnyaKnowIt · 17/09/2013 20:23

How is he now? Babies are far tougher then they look.

pudseypie · 17/09/2013 20:25

It's happened to all of us. My ds rolled off bed 3 times. Took him to a&e one of the times and by the time we got there he was grinning at the nurses. But if you are worried you should get baby checked. It doesn't make you a bad mum.

Johnny5needsinput · 17/09/2013 20:26

You can't be the worst mum in the world because I am. According to 11 year old DD.

who rolled off the bed aged about 6 weeks and survived to be currently stomping upstairs because I won't let her do something "everyone else" is doing tomorrow.

I'd take him to the doc if you are at all worried, but I am sure he will be fine And do tell the doc how you are feeling because you sound a bit down to me xx hugs xx

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Faith48 · 17/09/2013 20:28

He initially cried, I picked him up and then he stopped and was just looking around. He is feeding at the moment. I just want him to be okay.

I'm not good, I'm totally distraught.

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Chopsypie · 17/09/2013 20:31

It does seem dreadful when it happens, but most of us have done it at some point. Babies are made of rubber! Ring NHS direct if you're still concerned.

If anything your concern shows you are a great mum!

Sammie101 · 17/09/2013 20:31

Sending you a big hug! It must have been horrible, a lot more horrible for you than him I bet!
Like everyone above has said, you are not the worst mum, you're his mummy and these things will/have already happened to us all! Hope you feel better soon x

SPBisResisting · 17/09/2013 20:31

He;s feeding. Is he pulling off? Crying out? Particularly sleepy (difficult to tell with a baby so young!)
I personally would not be worried, but if you are, call out of hours/111/nhs direct/whatever it's called these days
Are you finding yourself very anxious since giving birth?

SPBisResisting · 17/09/2013 20:32

BTW I snipped the end of DS's finger off when cutting his nails as a tiny baby. It was awful :( He's 6 and I've only just started being able to cut thwm again!

HandMini · 17/09/2013 20:32

Is everything else ok?

I don't know any mum who HASN'T had a baby fall off something / roll out of something....so you're totally normal. I would take your little one to a doctor only if they seem "not themselves" - crying loads, floppy or unresponsive.

extracrunchy · 17/09/2013 20:32

No you're not!! I don't know many people this hasn't happened to. DS did it to me - first time he rolled over he did it off the nappy table as I turned to open new nappies. I was beside myself, he was totally fine.

GlitterFingers · 17/09/2013 20:32

I cried the first time dd rolled off the sofa she has since fell jumped off two beds, two sofas, head butted several things including the fire and today she got her head stuck in the banister railings she's only 13 months but a dare devil. They bounce pretty well and you get used to them hurting themselves. I hope baby is ok I'm sure they are fine but get checked if you're not sure. Seriously don't worry we all do it

Norem · 17/09/2013 20:34

Faith he sounds fine, we all do it at one time or another.
Babies are much tougher than we think they are. If it will make you feel more reassured go and get him checked out.

Rewindtimeplease · 17/09/2013 20:37

I know exactly where you are coming from. It's like post traumatic shock.

Ok, so listen up! You will find yourself replaying it over and over in your mind. For the next few days you will feel down, you will catch yourself remembering and you will feel sick to your stomach. You will ask yourself if you are fit to look after this precious perfect being.

However, within a few days, as you see that your baby is 100% fine, the memory will begin to fade. And soon enough, you will be able to think about it without feeling sick.

Within months it will just be a memory, that you can even laugh about.

I talk from experience!

NicholasTeakozy · 17/09/2013 20:38

DS rolled off his changing mat (on a coffee table) onto the floor, dropped a heavy pan on his foot, went face first down three steps and more or less had a reserved seat at A&E. He starts his third year of uni soon. Babies bounce and are more resilient than you give them credit for.

Thurlow · 17/09/2013 20:39

In the past few weeks DD has fallen face first off the bed, and it was such a cliched face-plant that I actually chuckled. That is being a bad mum She has also tripped and fallen into the door and gave herself one of those lumps that appears in seconds and was the size of an egg. It was terrifying and as I was on my own I ran her next door to my neighbour who is an osteopath who specialises in babies - not exactly an A&E professional but good enough for me in a panic. He repeated what other people have said, which is that a child not acting like themselves is the worrying sign - so off their food, uninterested in things etc.

If you are worried then please do call OoO and see if they can see your son.

However all babies fall at some point and it really, really isn't something you should blame yourself for. It is terrifying the first time it happens though. You are not a bad mum.

If you are feeling overly stressed about things, do you think you could talk to a doctor, midwife or HV?

twilight81 · 17/09/2013 21:00

My son bounced out his pram when dp was maneuvering the pram into the kitchen from outside.. He wasn't strapped in and was around 8 weeks old. Landed on the floor.. He was fine, dp got a bashing from me. Also fell off the sofa with dp (again)at about 5 months. Don't know how old he was but I managed to bang his head on the chandelier while wooshing him up And down.. Felt awful about that. We all do it, no harm done.

Ifcatshadthumbs · 17/09/2013 21:04

I was horrified when ds1 rolled off the sofa as a baby, really shaken up by it. Oddly it didn't prevent me letting the same thing happen to ds2

You're not the worse mum in the world and if you are you will have plenty of company.

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