Totally freaked out, just found pubes on my 5 year old dd

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She's a baby :( !!!!

Xylem my DD asked me to help her put cream on, She's 11. Should I turn myself over to SS?

Seriously xylem I am never moved to post criticising other people's comments but yours are just strange. Why on earth would it be inappropriate for a mother to apply cream for an 8yr old? I worked as a health professional for a long while pre children and I would not have been at all concerned about a parent applying cream to an 8yr old. With regards to 'finding' a pube, I would be more concerned if a parent wasn't observing a small child's body for anything unusual during bathtime, helping bum wipe etc.

xylem - you often state some very odd opinions on things, but this is shocking, even from you.

I actually hope you don't have children or I worry what messages you give them... very odd.

Xylem how about reverting to lurking so we don't have to listen to your inanity.

(As I'm about to do to. Op wishing you well and luck with doctors. Thinking of u both x)

I have 5 children and without exception the 4 eldest who are 8 and over could easily apply cream to their privates long long before the age of 8.It is wholly wholly unnecessary to do this for them
I work with children and if a girl of 8 told me that a parent was doing this I would certainly report it.

I give my children the message that their genitals are private and apart from a HCP nobody else should be touching them.
This is truly shocking that you allow your children to think it is ok for someone to do this.

I showed my step mum my 'privates' when I was 10 as I was really itchy. Turned out I had a mosquito bite and she put cream on it for me!! Should I report her?? What a truly ridiculous thing to say.

only HCPs? But not parents, helping to administer some cream? I really don't understand your thinking xylem.

why didn't you put it on yourself?
Why on earth at the age of 10 did you want your SM touching your fanjo?

but it's not SOMEONE, it's their mums!!!

jeeez

my dd started her periods at 9 and a half, heavy ones too. I helped her wipe herself properly, and had to show her where the blood was coming from by pointing out where her vagina was. Because she was a child.

Then I took the backing off a towel and helped her place it properly, in her underwear.

Would you report me???

It has nothing to do with want xylem. I doubt Spotty or her SM gave it a second thought. Until now.

Because I couldn't see it. I was 10, why would I care?! It didn't even occur to me not to ask her to do it. Nothing to do with me wanting her 'touching my fanjo'

why on earth would you think your DC couldn't do it themself at 8!!!
I guess it is down to the way you have been brought up.Different boundaries etc.
Can somebody answer me 'why' they would want to put it on their 8 yo.Supervising I could get (at a pinch) but not doing something so intimate that they could easily do themselves?

xylem8 I think you have massive issues. Your thoughts are of no benefit to anyone on this thread, let alone the poor OP who started this thread to get help and advice.

Ignoring the insanity on this thread (because it is insanity), did you manage to get a new appointment with a different gp treadingwater? I hope you get some progress soon.

Ok well I'll take my massive issues and disappear then

My 12 year old DS showed me a spot on his genitals yesterday that was sore. He wasn't bothered, but I could have done with some warning. I was eating toast at the time.

bully for you Xylem to have such able children at such a young age. Many do not.
Some cream really should not end up anywhere other than the intended area & need adult application.

I find your posts rude, unkind & unhelpful.

Just marking place as I feel invested in the op now x

You won't be missed xylem8

Forgetting the cream situation, would you not routinely check your child's body for moles/freckles/rashes or any worrying changes?

DD is only 16months, but I fully intent on keeping an eye on my child's body/development as her health is my responsibility.

I wish I had a Mother I could have gone to with worries or concerns like this. You sound lovely all of you bar the ridiculous paranoia of one poster.

Definitely push for a referral op. My eldest DD had a condition that can cause precocious puberty, so I always kept an eye on her. She showed no signs until about 11 whereas DD2(who doesn't have the condition,) started puberty at 8.

My dd had first pube at 6, now has a whole crop at 9. They were blonde but darkening

Ffs Yoni..ever heard the phrase 'if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all!'

Hopefully the GP can help you OP.