3wk+3

[Kafri]

Not sure if this is the right place to post...

My ds seemingly has reflux and has been given gaviscon.
He won't tolerate being in his back AT ALL and this has now got to the point where he won't sit back in his car seat (maxi cosi if it makes any difference) or swing chair etc.

This is driving me insane as he will only sleep upright, therefore in me or DH so no sleep for us as I can't settle when he's on me for fear of dropping him etc.

Gaviscon since Friday doesn't seem to be making a huge improvement. He tolerated 15 mins in his swing today and a short car journey. Woke immediately on stopping the car and became unsettled so had to pick him up.

My arms are sore from carrying and I'm exhausted too. Do not know how the hell to get him sleeping in his crib and now that I'm struggling to get out in the fresh air too I've got serious cabin fever!!

Took him for a walk on Friday in his pram, (which he settled in really well at first), and he just screamed and screamed so had to get DH up from bed to pick us up.

Health visitor came on Thursday and it was her that said it looked like reflux after spending 3 hours with me trying to settle him.

I'm getting to the end of my tether now. Not with ds, just with the situation. I'm really worried about how the hell I'm going to work this once DH goes back to work and is t around to help meaning I get the days and nights.

Please don't just tell me that this is typical newborn stuff and time will heal as I literally CANNOT put him down on his back. I'm also worried that by not being able to put him down, he's going to get used to being held and then simply refuse to be put down.

Please help me and offer advice, ill answer any questions honestly to get the best advice.

I think you should see the gp. i'd bet there is more effective medicine for this than gaviscon.

DS had bad reflux as a baby and it is horrible. Not only is your beautiful baby screaming 24-7 but you are beyond tired so I have every sympathy.

I used a sling during the day (babybjorn) to keep him upright and he slept in a bouncy chair at night (on the advice of nurses at GOSH). We folded up a duvet under the seat to stop him losing heat through the seat and covered him with blankets and towels once he was strapped in. Car seats often make refluxy babies worse because it pushes their stomachs up. We also bought a wedge for when he went into a cot in order to lift his head although you can do the same thing with a couple of yellow pages under the legs.

Good luck. x

Thanks for the replies. My mw is making one last visit tomorrow and the HV is calling to see how we've gone on this weekend so I'm just going to be honest and see what response I get.
The HV raised the mattress of his basket but still can't get him to spend more than 10 mins in there.

Even in Hosp he seemed unsettled on his back but there was nothing that have me cause for concern. I just guessed he'd adapt and get used but as the weeks went on it got worse. People kept telling me it was all par for the course with a baby until the HV came at 3 weeks and witnessed it for herself.

Funnily enough, we've managed to get him sleeping at night which he wasn't doing at first. He was completely nocturnal. Now I need to find a way of getting him to sleep properly somewhere other than on me.

Been back to gp today on hv advice. He has prescribed lactose free milk to try. Anyone had any experience with this?
I'm happy they're doing something to help now but just wish it was omething tat could be solved with a definitive answer rather than trial and error.

Oh and bit pissed off that the LF milk is double the price. Don't get me wrong, if he needs it I'll get it but is it really necessary for it to be so expensive???

Sorry for moaning folks.

Hello kafri
I have no knowledge of the reflux at all, it sounds so worrying knackering and such hard work... It does sound so extreme too, im so pleased for you that a hv actually spent that much time with you to see it all for themself...

But my DS was prescribed both soya formula and hypoallergenic formula (neonate) when he was a baby - both were on prescription for him so were free of charge. This was lucky especially in the case of neocate as I have a hunch it was around £30 a can! So so ask for prescription - it's clearly medical, and I hope you get some specialist medical support really soon.