I am quite upset about this because we truly do our very best.
I follow all their guidlines re sweet things. We don't eat many and what they do get comes after a meal (as they told me to do) They don't get juice, as a rule, only water and milk with the odd, very watered, down diluting which DD gets with her lunch (again, within thier rules)
We brush religiously morning and night. I don't scrimp, I do the very best I can to ensure that every single tooth in that little head (and her brothers) gets a good cleaning.
They gave me disclosure tablets which I used on her teeth after I had brushed them, was this right? I wanted to see what I left behind because they basically implied that it was her oral hygeine that was a fault.
And there was barely anything left on her teeth.
I took one myself, before I brushed my teeth, so that we could compare. Mine were pretty purple! Hers hardly had any.
I feel that I am doing absolutely evrything that I can for my daughter and being made to feel like a failing parent 
They also gave her a scale and polish. The dentist at that point said her enamal was thin. It almost looks like constant yellowing plaque on her eye teeth. I was concerned but was reassured not to, that that was just how her teeth were and that hopefully the next set would be stronger.
That is also quite upsetting. I eat a healthy diet and did as a pregnant and BF mother (LOADS of milk) so why are her teeth so weak? 
She has only lost 4 teeth so far (top two came out early because she fell going up the slide the wrong way, gah! And her teeth took the brunt of her fall)
I don't really see where I can go from here but the dentist says 6 fillings!
Actually she didn't say it at all! I only found out her plans when I had to sign the consent form.
Btw, when I was in, they said I was fine and sent me on my way. Hours later they called me to say I needed 2 filings? I questioned it and the following day they called me back to say, oops your right you don't need anything.
Makes you wonder though. Does my DD really need 6 or is that also a mistake.
And, mainly, does she really have to have 6 when she will lose them all anyway?
The dentist only said that one was developed. I have no idea where the other 5 are!
We are in an area where it is extremely hard to get to see a dentist so going to another isn't really an option, I don't think?
Going private could mean she gets thrown out of the nhs list (I don't know if it is true for children, but if I were to see a private one, I know that I would be struck off their list)
But I would like to question it, I just have no clue where to start 